Guys these days ... lol
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Guys these days ... lol
| Mon, 07-12-2004 - 1:56pm |
Gosh I feel like sexual customs are changing or something: I have a brand new relationship and we had sex for the first time last night. Without acting like it was the slightest bit unusual, when he was ready to orgasm he pulled out, yanked off the rubber, and held his penis about a foot or so over my face and masturbated all over me! Is this normal? I mean I have had a couple of men do similar things in the past but only when I knew them! I didn't so much mind as I was totally surprised ... there was nothing -mean- about it, he snuggled up afterwards and was totally friendly and cool ... I was like, ummm, OK ... one of my eyes was bloodshot this AM but otherwise I'm no worse for the wear ... still this is so wierd, I'm laughing b/c I guess I'm just not _au courant_ ....

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Um hmm. Seems I underestimated just how much 'some' of you women know men after all. ;]
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further, i have found that men ask for things that they themselves would not do (i.e. anal, being in a threesome with someone of the same sex). why should a woman succomb to a man's every whim and learn to like it? after all there are two people involved in the interaction, not a master and slave (unless of course both partners are into that ;).
I love men but I also love myself and I want the same things my partner does....respect, compassion and yes, a positive attitude toward my feelings and desires, without judgement.
However, I wouldn't be with a man who wanted me to endure something he knew I didn't enjoy or feel good about. Just as I would never ask my DH to do something he didn't truly enjoy. This has nothing to do with an open mind though.
Edited 7/14/2004 12:32 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
As you said, Sugar, what if a man likes threesomes, should his partner forget her own standards and boundaries and just go with it against her better judgement? Absolutely not.
IF you're doing things ONLY for your partner, getting no enjoyment or pleasure out it yourself, then there will be resentment.
And I agree that IF you try something, for his benefit, that isn't compromising your own morals or boundaries, then THAT'S being open-minded, whether you continue to indulge in the act or not. You were willing to try it.
But I could care less if a man "got away" because I refused to compromise myself sexually or morally. Not a big loss. Besides, another one always comes along shortly.
Edited 7/14/2004 12:28 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
I think the cardinal rule in all this is just to leave the other person feeling like a million bucks. Then they're going to come back for more, and of course that's the whole point! ;-)
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