Guys....Born Again Virgin...Hot or Not?

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Registered: 05-20-2007
Guys....Born Again Virgin...Hot or Not?
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Sun, 05-11-2008 - 4:14am

So here is the question.....Early 40's, single mom of 1

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sun, 05-11-2008 - 9:10am

Welcome to the board, survivor362.

I'm not sure if your post is asking a question or making an announcement.

Are you wondering if it's a plus or minus to have been single for so long, or to want a steady relationship?

I also don't understand what you mean by saying you're a "born again virgin".


















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Registered: 05-20-2007
Sun, 05-11-2008 - 10:46am

I was wondering if guys find that to be sexy or a turn off? BTW, born again virgin means I have not had sex since my child was very young, LOL. His dad and I split when he was 2.....so it's been 9 (oh, gawd!) years since I have had sex.....LOL...yes, really.....;)


Is that a plus or a minus for guys (at my age anyway...40+)

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Registered: 03-08-2004
Sun, 05-11-2008 - 4:31pm

I don't see that it would matter when you had sex last, if it was

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Registered: 11-17-2007
Sun, 05-11-2008 - 6:07pm

I'm a guy but being married I don't know very much about the dating scene. I presume some guys would find it a turn on while others would not.


A good friend of mine on these boards went over 10 years without sex so your situation is not unique.

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Mon, 05-12-2008 - 12:01am

Once you've lost it, it's never born again, lol

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Registered: 05-20-2007
Mon, 05-12-2008 - 12:17am
I am not real concerned about forgetting....I have a pretty vivid imagination....the difficult part is trying to figure out the dating thing and trying to restrain myself....LOL...
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Registered: 08-28-1998
Mon, 05-12-2008 - 2:01pm

I don't think it would be either, hot or not. As things are getting more intimate, you may (or may not) want to mention that it has been quite a while since you have been with a man. I wouldn't want details. Six months; 5 years; 10 years ...doesn't matter. Since you have children, he knows that you aren't a virgin. If you come across as confident and enthusiastic about having sex with him, that will likely be reflected back in his feelings toward you. Most people(male or female) just want to feel wanted.

In any new relationship, your first times together are a learning process about your partner.

Good Luck
Paul