Hair Question

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Hair Question
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Mon, 12-19-2005 - 1:40pm
I leave my pubic hair natural, but I shave below my labia, I feel cleaner that way. Anyhoo, my fiance loves the fullness and softness of my hair and he does not want me to change it at all. However, I'm interested in shaving again (I did back in high school)
But I know that if I took it all off, Steven would freak out. (when we first met, I shaved and he said it was fine but he perfers the natural look. I don't mind either way.
I was just wondering what I should do?

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Registered: 11-26-2004
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 2:08pm
I think that we should do what makes us most comfortable for ourselves because WE have to be happy first and foremost. You should groom yourself in whichever manner makes you feel best because then you'll be the best you can be. He should just respect that just as you would respect him to groom himself in whatever manner he wishes. It's only pubic hair afterall. Unless for some reason the stubble on your labia is bothering him or some other physical reason why you should let it grow, he'll just have to accept that this is the way that you feel best. If you don't like it grown out, then why would you grow it out? I think that the best thing that two people can do for one another in a relationship is to give the other their blessings to do whatever they wish to do with their own bodies. Just accept that it is, what it is; and be happy about it too. ;-)


Edited 12/19/2005 3:20 pm ET by rain_dancer_iam
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Mon, 12-19-2005 - 3:11pm

Do what you want with your own body. Your guy will get used to it and you can always grow it back out later, if you get tired of the maintainence.

Remember, he said the shaved look was "fine."

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 3:46pm

Echoing what the others said, it's your body and you should do what you like.


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Registered: 09-22-2004
Tue, 12-20-2005 - 4:28pm
If he said that the shaved look was fine than it is so and you should not worry. I too am a fan of the more natural look "down there" on females and can also look at it from the perspective of "its not what I am used to" or "its something that was an additional selling point for me and now its gone", or "whats the deal?" I know its just pubic hair but if its something I like and know the person I am with has it and all the sudden does not I would kinda feel almost cheated in some wierd way, almost a "this isnt what I paid for" Do you know what i mean? I dont know. I am all for people doing things for themselves but when someone else is involved in a relationship things can get confusing, especially when they like pubic hair and have come used to it with you.
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Tue, 12-20-2005 - 8:23pm
I to echo what most others have said, "Do what you feel good about" don't worry what he thinks. He will get used to it or move on and if that is all that it takes to end things they were not ment to be. I go brazilian and enjoy being smooth. I agree with you it is far easer to be clean when your are smooth.
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Wed, 12-21-2005 - 10:45am

I know one thing for sure...

If Mrs. Para had a preference vs. mine on what to do with her body, then my chief preference would be for her to be happy FIRST, otherwise I wouldn't have any other issue to worry about at all...LOL!!!

 

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Registered: 11-26-2004
Wed, 12-21-2005 - 11:17am
So...if it's her preference for you to don a goutee`, you'd do it, even though you prefer yourself clean-faced? And, of course, it has to go the other way as well. You would rather that she do something just because you prefer it that way? For instance, she should shave her pubic area even though she dislikes it and prefers it natural because it's your preference? You wouldn't rather she put her own happiness first with respect to her own body? You'd rather she forego her own preference, for yours? Wouldn't you rather give her your blessings to do what she prefers?
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Wed, 12-21-2005 - 1:19pm
Aren't these the sort of things people in relationships do for each other all the time? I make lots of minor sacrifices for DW, and she for me. Ultimately, its a matter of priority. Everything doesn't have to be a huge issue.

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Wed, 12-21-2005 - 2:41pm
If your reply was meant for me and not for the O.P. by accident, then feel free to my post...you just may find that we agree a pinch more than you think. :)

 

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Registered: 11-26-2004
Wed, 12-21-2005 - 4:25pm
...but that's what I thought. If DH prefers his face clean-shaven and I prefer it with a goutee`, then **I** would prefer to make the small sacrifice rather than him, by doing without so that he can do what he wishes to with his own body. I just wouldn't ask him to sacrifice for my sake. I'd not only sacrifice, but I'd gain peace from knowing that he's doing what he enjoys the most. That in and of itself is most rewarding. Yep...we sacrifice for the ones we love alright. ;-)
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )

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