hair there?

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Registered: 10-09-2006
hair there?
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Mon, 10-09-2006 - 7:02pm

Hello everyone!
This is a bit of an embarassing question, so please bear with me.

My boyfriend and I will soon start having sex. We've discussed it, and feel we are ready to take that next step. I trust him fully, and I know he loves me, etc. I am a little bit nervous about our first time though. But I definetely 'want' him. My biggest worry though, is that I recently found out he is a 'butt' guy. Meaning he will pay some attention to it. My question is: is hair in the butt crack normal? Do guys, generally speaking, get turned off by it? I know they get rid of that with brazilian waxes, but I don't know if I'd want to do that. I can discuss sex with my friends, but for some reason, I can't bring myself to talk about this topic out loud!

Not only is he a butt guy, but I have always been interested in the reverse cowgirl position. But have always been 'scared' of it, as it would involve a guy looking at me from behind from pretty close.

So yeah, my question is, is a little bit of butt crack hair normal in girls? Is it a big turn off? There seems to be so little information about it out there.

Thank you in advance!

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: diana_bear
Mon, 10-09-2006 - 7:24pm
Of course it's normal, some are hairy than others but everyone has hair, men do to.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: diana_bear
Mon, 10-09-2006 - 10:33pm
I've been married for 51 years and never noticed whether my wife has butt hair. According to Tish, we all have it, but, from my standpoint, it doesn't mean a thing. Methinks you worry too much. Even with reverse cowgirl, the hair would not be seen. JMHO
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Registered: 07-26-2005
In reply to: diana_bear
Mon, 10-09-2006 - 11:55pm

There's very little information out there about it because it's natural, normal, and inconsequential!

NO man is going to "inspect" your body looking for minute "flaws"....not when he's busy doing his thing, and hopefully doing YOUR thing. NO one has a perfect body, and no man cares about things like that.....he's concentrating on far more important things! I don't know what you mean by a "butt man"....but it's very doubtful that he's going to have his face so close that he'll be able to see a few fine hairs.

First time sex is hard enough without worrying about things like that. Don't worry, he'll love all of you, butt hair and all. If he doesn't....then HE has a problem.

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Registered: 08-16-2006
In reply to: diana_bear
Tue, 10-10-2006 - 1:46pm
It's admirable that you want to consider his every whim, need, desire, etc in advance but you just need to relax and don't worry so much about what he may like, want, or possibly may be interested in. This upcomming encounter is as much for you as it is for him. If you are not comfortable with him seeing you or having access to touch you in various positions and angles, then simply hold off on those until you are ready and don't feel guilty. Ultimately, your comfort level and your desires have to be the priority, especially being the 1st time with him.
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Registered: 10-01-2006
In reply to: diana_bear
Wed, 10-11-2006 - 1:38pm
it's definitely normal. And it's also normal for you to be so paranoid because you're not experienced in the bedroom. I'm pretty obsessed with keeping myself groomed so I deal with all the hair on my body but I don't think your BF would notice if you didn't get rid of it. But if you're going to be worrying about it, just shave/wax it!
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Registered: 10-09-2006
In reply to: diana_bear
Fri, 10-13-2006 - 12:29pm

You are right, although not a virgin, I am not very experienced, sexually, at all. From this probably stems my paranoia.

Thank you everyone for your reassuring replies.