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half erection?
| Thu, 09-15-2005 - 8:04am |
My boyfriend sometimes like half loses his erection when I'm giving him oral (we're not having sex). It's still hard, but not as hard. He says he can't tell and it still feels the same, and he thinks he can still cum when this happens. What is this and why does it happen? What can I do to prevent it from happening? I think it may have happened because I gave him a blowjob for too long before switching to a handjob, as he can never cum from a blowjob even though he prefers it.

There's nothing YOU can do to prevent this.
I agree with Tish......you ARE having sex, you're just not having intercourse. Oral sex is SEX!
The penis is something that most girls don't understand, anymore than guys understand the vulva and all it's parts. Check out www.the-penis.com & start learning. For his homework, have him check out www.the-clitoris.com and you should probably read along with him.
You need to learn to listen to your b/f, and when he tells you something is good, then it is, no matter whether it's a full erection, a partial erection, or no erection at all! YOu also need to learn to talk to him, and ask him what HE likes, and if necessary, have him show you what he wants you to do. Every guy is different, and what one likes, the next one may hate. If you can do it, then you can talk about it.
I'll join the "oral sex is sex" bandwagon. I'm all for mature, consensual sex, but don't play games pretending you're just giving each other a backrub!
That said, erections vary from man to man and from time to time with the same man. I've had orgasms with no erection, a half erection, and a rock hard erection. The crux of the mater is that if he says its good, it is. Similarly, when someone is having sex with you, they have to trust that if you tell them it was good, it was, even if you didn't show whatever sign they thought you should.
Be safe!
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OK, first off, just because it isn't IC doesn't mean it's not sex; you and he are pleasing one another's sex organs, just because you're not putting them together doesn't make it "not sex".
As far as him losing firmness, the orgasm comes from between the ears, not between the legs. A guy can be any degree of firmness and still orgasm. If the stimulation he's getting has gone overboard some, then he may be frankly getting numb or even sore from it, and that's likely to make him wilt a bit. Changing the pace or the type (BJ to HJ back to BJ, change the sort of stroking you're using, etc.) should keep him focused on what you're doing for him.