Hard time with small penis!

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Registered: 11-30-2004
Hard time with small penis!
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Thu, 12-02-2004 - 3:36pm
Hi everyone, how do you all feel about penis size? The last two guys I dated had HUGE penises, and now I'm dating a man I absolutely adore who has a small one. I can't help it, but sometimes I don't even feel it! It's not tiny, maybe 5.5-6 inches? IS there a way to get over penis size and make it pleasurable? Do certain positions allow you to feel it more? Do any of you have problems with this or does penis size not matter? Thanks!

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Thu, 12-02-2004 - 4:00pm

Sorry, but this is a bit funny because there are currently two debates on other topics being discussed to the death about this exact subject. Have a look at "Extra Large Penis Issues" under the Health heading and "Asian penis size" under this heading.

5.5-6" is about average penis size so it's not that he's particularly small. You must have just been with some large guys.

Some positions like doggie and girl-on-top can provide deeper penetration. With some practice a grinding movement in positions like missionary can press your pubic areas together and stimulate your clitoris more too. Since the vagina doesn't have a lot of sensation and your clitoris does, you may find that grinding movements rather than your basic in and out thrusting will provide a lot of stimulation.

I think that you can probably have very enjoyable sex, and it may well end up being better sex than before, it's just that you will have to get used to the smaller size and change how you do it slightly. Of course, you are unlikely to be able to get that 'filled' or stretched feeling the same as before.

As you probably know penis size is a controversial and sensitive issue for most men and you can easily hurt a man's feelings and give him feelings of inadequacy by talking about larger penises. He is stuck with what he has got and he can't do anything about it. Talking about larger penises may be detrimental and cause more problems in the relationship, so you've got to be careful how you approach the issue.

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Registered: 10-24-2003
Thu, 12-02-2004 - 4:28pm
here we go again! :) I think your reply says it all very well.
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Registered: 11-16-2004
Thu, 12-02-2004 - 4:34pm

sounds like his is about the same size as my DH.

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Thu, 12-02-2004 - 4:45pm
sunjoy, when you say you dont even feel it, do you mean you dont feel it in the rear of your vagina,...ie your cirvix?..Did the guys with large penises hit the back of your vigina?..is that what you miss?...Maybe the other guys were just thicker than your present guy, and that is what you may not be feeling...Girth
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Thu, 12-02-2004 - 4:46pm
My bf always says his penis needs to be bigger. He is about 7 inches. But I don't think it needs to be, I love it how it is. Plus it my opinion, there is only so much room for it to go into and anything extra is just going to be hanging out there so what is the point.
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Registered: 10-18-2001
Thu, 12-02-2004 - 4:49pm
I don't want to make a debate about it, but that's probably the biggest complaint from guys that have a large penis that I've heard - if it's too big they can't fit all the way in or do the deep hard thrusting that you want to do as you approach orgasm.
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Registered: 12-24-2003
Fri, 12-03-2004 - 2:13am
But really, would you much rather have an inch you can't fit, or an inch you can't reach? I'd go for the inch you can't fit any day.
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Registered: 12-29-2003
Fri, 12-03-2004 - 4:19pm
sunjoy,
Practice your Kegels. This will make sex much better for both of you.
taoist
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Registered: 07-22-2004
Sat, 12-04-2004 - 12:23am

Hi sunjoy. I'm going to copy and paste part of what I reported earlier regarding this subject. Please take the time to read up on the articles, they just may help. For many couples in your situation, its really better than nothing and has proven to be quite fun.

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There are certain positions that are perfectly designed for "a tighter fit" even when, or especially when, it involves a size that is smaller than what you've enjoyed before. ALSO keep in mind that certain positions are simply designed to help him stimulate your g-spot more as well, of how snug the fit is compared to before.

Here's some ideas that you REALLY should look into, they've been reported to be way too much fun and helpful by so many so far:

10 Hot New Positions
http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/sex/no/articles/0,,166928_633458,00.html

5 Pleasure-Maxing Positions
http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/sex/no/articles/0,,166928_547497,00.html

Size Matters: Two Solutions for Small Situations
http://www.ivillage.com/relationships/experts/sexpro/qas/0,,166928_251416,00.html

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Sat, 12-04-2004 - 6:17am

Your boyfriend is not small. He's average. And you should be able to feel an average penis easily.

It sounds to me like the problem is that you have a loose vagina. Taoist suggest kegels - probably a good place to start.

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