Has anyone seen my sex drive?

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Has anyone seen my sex drive?
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Sun, 04-24-2005 - 6:42pm
Ok, here it is, for about the past year I have noticed my sex drive disappearing. I asked my dr. if she thought it might be the Birth control pill, she said yes. Ok, good, so I changed perscriptions mean while BF is not happy and understandably so. What can i do to get back in the mood? This is driving me crazy, and him to as you can imagine. ANY THOUGHTS? and I do mean ANY!!!!
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Registered: 10-13-2004
Sun, 04-24-2005 - 7:48pm

I just checked your profile and you've not entered anything....so perhaps you can tell us about your age, lifestyle, health, job and relationship.

You see, your sex drive does not operate independantly...but is a barometer of outside influences. If you can pinpoint problems in other areas of your life, you will most likely find the cause of your lost libido.

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Mon, 04-25-2005 - 12:06am

Your sex drive (libido) has two components.....hormones, and your brain. Hormones, in your case, we know what's going on....BCP's. But, the brain has even more influence over your libido than the hormones do. Women after menopause when the hormones are practically gone, can still have a strong libido.

SOOOOO, what's going on in your head......or more importantly, in your life? Stress, illness, relationship problems, guilty about sex? Something is causing it, and you're the only one who can get inside your head and figure it out.

Sexual problems are usually a reflection of something that's going on outside the bedroom.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 04-25-2005 - 10:47am

Could be any number of possible answers. It's up to you to do some detective work to find out what those possibilities are though.

Your overall relationship may not be as happy as you'd like, unresolved conflicts could be causing you to subconsciously turn off to your partner, stress, family issues, other medical conditions and medications, depression, work, and a million other things in your life could be affecting your libido.

However, it IS completely normal to have peaks and valleys in our sex drives throughout our lives, so this could just be one of those valleys for you.

Do some soul searching. Figure out when this decline began and what was going on at that time. It's always a good idea to get a full check up every year and then go from there.

I hope you find some answers.