Have you ever cheated when in a commi...

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Have you ever cheated when in a commi...
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Sun, 09-05-2004 - 8:26pm

Have you ever cheated when in a committed relationship?



  • Yes I have cheated.
  • No I have not cheated.


You will be able to change your vote.


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Registered: 07-22-2004
Tue, 09-07-2004 - 1:37pm
Hey you, where ya been? Welcome back!

Was cheated on in an a previous relationship, but no problems in THIS marriage...she's da greatest! ;D

C h a r a c t e r


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Registered: 05-21-2004
Tue, 09-07-2004 - 4:03pm
i voted no- never EVER would i cheat on someone i'm with...i have been cheated on (which probably helps define this position for me), i know the total devestation that comes from knowing your beloved was touching/kissing etcetc someone else...

HOWEVER- in an extreme lapse of judgement, somewhat blinded by the fact i thought there really was a future with this one particular man, i HAD become someone's mistress once, kind of believing he'd end things with his fiancee.

SO- no, i'm not some 'i wouldn't ever cheat' angel, i was knowingly the other woman once, and it pleases me to no end that they were able to work out their probs and are now happily married (without her ever ocming to know about the relationship he and i had)

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Registered: 06-11-2003
Tue, 09-07-2004 - 5:59pm
When I was in high school, my dad had an affair with a married woman. I attended the same school as her kids, lived in the same town. I think her kids knew, because I remember her daughter looking at me alot. Not with contempt, but just a *courious* type of look. This affair gave me a feeling of disgust that I will never forget. Cheating is a line that I will never cross.
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Registered: 08-04-2004
Tue, 09-07-2004 - 6:35pm
That really sucks and I'm sorry to hear your story.
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Registered: 04-22-2003
Tue, 09-07-2004 - 7:32pm
Yea I have cheated, and still feel bad about it. It happened when I was 17, and had been with my bf at the time for about a year, but we had gone out many times over about 4 years, just took us awhile to get over the shyness and make it offical. Well he went away for school ( not on his own will, he was in a bit of trouble here ) but we wanted to keep the relationship together while he was gone.

Well after awhile things just started to fall apart. We kept the relationship together through the internet since it was too expensive to call overseas, but his computer went down and well...a guy I was friends with took the chance when I was down about my relationship ( not playin the victim here )and well we ended up hanging out more, flirting and making out a few times, but it never went to anything sexual.

I wouldn't ever do it again, I think I just missed the love and 'attention' I was unable to get from my bf with him being so far away for almost a yr. I never told him, we broke up about 3 months into him being back for good. We've talked a couple of times over the last 2 years, but we try to keep it at a minimal because we are scared to get back together, the feelings come back everytime we talk but we are very different ppl that it just never seemed to work. And I still feel really bad for what I did. As for the guy I cheated with, I'm friends with him still, we didn't talk for months once all our fun ended as he was pretty certain I was gonna leave my bf for him, but we patched things up.

Sorry for the ramble, just wanted to explain myself.

~Brookie

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Tue, 09-07-2004 - 9:37pm
I have been busy working out, trying to get ready for the girls at the gym, and then I missed my appointment.

Really bad luck !!!

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Tue, 09-07-2004 - 10:33pm
Oh hey, I'm not worrying about something that happened 23 years ago, lol! I've been faithful to DH since the very first time we started dating 21 years ago, and he to me. And that's all that counts.

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