Have you ever had an instant connection

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Registered: 08-03-2007
Have you ever had an instant connection
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Tue, 12-04-2007 - 8:49pm

This is so out of character for me... 3 weeks ago I had a first date with a man that I met online. We emailed each other over a 2 month period before we met for the first time. The moment we met I was instantly attracted to him. We spent 6 hours at the restaurant talking non stop about everything...the conversation was fabulous!!


We left the restuarant and went to a night club and 10 minutes after sitting next to each other in a booth he gave me the most amazing kiss!!! We couldn't keep our hands off of each other after that. After 30 minutes I invited him back to my place for a drink and before I could pour anything we were making out feveriously in my kitchen. I guided him into my bedroom and we had the most amazing foreplay I've ever experienced. He was the most attentive, passionate, gentle man I've ever had the pleasure of meeting. The foreplay lead to an attempt to have I/C, I say "attempt" because he was so turned on that everytime he made the effort to enter me he would cum. He tried on 4 occassions which were spread out by more foreplay...this lasted for hours but I was perfectly content with the foreplay and I made that clear to him. He ended up staying the night and the foreplay continued the next morning, but again no I/C. BTW, I've never slept with a man after a first date. In fact I've never had a one night stand.


We talked on the phone and exchanged emails all week and then we

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Tue, 12-04-2007 - 11:30pm

Welcome to the board, AMS.

Maybe spend a little less time with foreplay. He might be so close to going over the top by the time you get to the point of IC that he can't help himself. Also, it's a new situation/relationship, so that can add to the problem. Just give him time and perhaps plan an evening that is focused more on IC than the foreplay.





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Registered: 12-09-2007
Sun, 12-09-2007 - 12:18am

AMS,


I had almost the exact same thing happen to me Friday night and I thought I was going insane!

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Sun, 12-09-2007 - 5:49am
Hi there.
You say, "Now, I'm not a firm believer in "soul mates" or "love at first sight"...could this simply be lust for both of us? It must be!!" I'm not a firm believer in soul mates either, although love at first sight is something I'm familiar with :) but if you talked for 6 hours at the restaurant and the conversation was so great, I'd say it can't be just lust. Lust isn't that much about conversation, if you ask me. You seem to communicate very well, so there might be some form of mental (and maybe emotional) compatibility between you.
Good luck with it!

Scorpio


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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sun, 12-09-2007 - 8:06am

Welcome to the board, ldm0804, and congratulations on finding a great guy!

I met and married my hubby in under a year. That was over 16 years ago ;-)





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Registered: 08-03-2007
Mon, 12-10-2007 - 8:09pm

Hi ldm,


Our 3rd date was last wednesday and we had another date full of conversation, laughter and foreplay. When we returned to my place after dinner I went into the bedroom and lit a bunch of candles, he's a romantic guy so I thought he'd enjoy the candlelight, and boy did he! We were so turned on that we skipped the massage and got down and dirty, LOL!! He was able to penetrate me for a VERY short time and when he did he looked into my eyes and said "we're a perfect fit" and he had a huge smile on his face. He's right, we are a perfect fit and I can't wait for more IC. I'm not going to worry about it though because I just love being WITH him.


We continue to IM during the day and when he doesn't have his girls he calls me. I'm going to see him tomorrow night, our 4th date, so I'm looking forward to his spine tingling hugs and kisses :)


Good luck on your 2nd date ldm and let me know how it goes!!!


AMS

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Registered: 12-09-2007
Mon, 12-10-2007 - 10:40pm

AMS,


Sounds like you two are perfect for each other.