have you ever spanked a vagina?

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have you ever spanked a vagina?
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Tue, 03-07-2006 - 5:34pm

my bf likes to spank my vagina/ tap it (not very hard or anything, just a pat) but im curious, if this is a usual practise ? (i doubt its a fetish) and if there are other guys out there who do this, how does that get you aroused (like is it a BDSM type of thing or what?)lol

thanks

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Thu, 03-09-2006 - 1:40am
Well, say hello to another one. Not my thing either. My DH also enjoys earlobe nibbling but tongue in the ear is gross to both of us.
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Thu, 03-09-2006 - 8:07am
I see your point. I guess the best thing for a man to do is to never introduce anything new in the bedroom. Even better is to assume that nothing that he has done with any other woman will work with a new woman. So, I guess that the best thing to do with a new woman is to not try anything at all, right?
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Thu, 03-09-2006 - 9:27am

That wasn't my point at all. My point was that if you want to try something new and different, go ahead and do it. But, if she doesn't seem to like it, then don't do it anymore. In the case of my ex, he rarely tried anything beyond "wham bam, thank you ma'am". But, because he was inexperienced, he would listen to these older men, and think their word was gospel. Because I didn't like it, he acted like there was something wrong with ME. I was no more experienced than he was, so that left ME feeling like there WAS something wrong with me! We were both very young, and I'm no longer that young naive girl, and I know now that everyone is different, and just because something worked with one person, that doesn't mean it will work with everyone else.

One other thing these guys told him was that if a woman has an orgasm, her nipples will be erect. Again, maybe true of some, but not of every woman. They also told him that showing a woman porn would turn her into a tiger. So, they gave him some films (back in the days that you needed a projector, silent black and white things they called "smokers") He got the projector out, and all I did was laugh hysterically! I guess I wasn't as "receptive" as the other guys' wives were!

Anyone should feel free to try anything new......but there's no guarantee that it will get the desired results. We are all different.

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Thu, 03-09-2006 - 11:49am
No, Rice. A man just shouldn't assume that his woman will like it, too. Or be hurt/disappointed/angry if she doesn't.
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Thu, 03-09-2006 - 12:16pm

I'm one of those women who love my ears licked, kissed and nibbled, along with the neck area right below it(it's definitely connected to me loins... tee hee). Whenever he whispers dirty or loving ;-) things while it's wet and he's caressing it, just drives me wild. I never knew this either. If he hadn't tried it, I doubt that I would have "thought of it." And I know he didn't see it in any porn--at least not in the porn we've seen. tee hee

I am of the opposite belief. I think that men DON'T talk about sex enough in detail(but in general) with their peers because their egos get in the way. Didn't you know that they're all great lovers! ;-)




Edited 3/9/2006 12:31 pm ET by rain_dancer_iam
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Thu, 03-09-2006 - 8:13pm
I'm still confused. If he can't assume that she'll like it, then why would he try anything new? Why would he do anything new unless she introduces it or asks for it (like that's ever gonna happen, LOL)?
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Thu, 03-09-2006 - 9:21pm

Should anything


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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 12:37am
Hmmmm. Let's see, maybe he shouldn't ASSUME anything since they're still individuals. Just because two people are married, doesn't mean that they think exactly alike. They ARE two different genders and that alone should be enough reason to think that there MAY be a difference of opinion. No one should feel boxed into an act or suggestion just because their partner introduces it though. She might be glad he tried it and encourage him to continue trying new things, but still not like the act itself.
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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 3:09am

Boy, you let yourself in for that, didn't you? LOL!

I'm sure that I could hear the sarcasm in your post. It was sarcasm, wasn't it?

Of course someone can try something new. Like the others have said, just don't assume that what works for one woman will work for another. Nothing wrong with trying it once or twice though. Just don't think that she's weird if she doesn't like it.

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 9:35pm
Yep, I sure learned my lesson. Never assume anything; never try anything.