have you ever spanked a vagina?

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have you ever spanked a vagina?
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Tue, 03-07-2006 - 5:34pm

my bf likes to spank my vagina/ tap it (not very hard or anything, just a pat) but im curious, if this is a usual practise ? (i doubt its a fetish) and if there are other guys out there who do this, how does that get you aroused (like is it a BDSM type of thing or what?)lol

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 10:14pm

Right, no one should assume anything but there's nothing wrong with trying and there's nothing wrong with asking.


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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 11:01pm
And the dripping sarcasm continues.
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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 11:16pm
Well, you know what clueless buffoons we men all are (At least according to some of the women on this board). Given that, it seems that the safest thing to do is to simply not do anything at all. That way there's no risk of accidently giving offense. What woman could object to that?
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Sat, 03-11-2006 - 1:22pm

Rice, I think that it's kind of cute that a guy would be so excited about trying something that he'd heard from the "guys" as being a turn-on for their women, and/or read, something they saw in a movie(and no, not necessarily porn ;-)) or even just something that they "think" of themselves.

I too have received many ideas from many different sources over the years and have applied them; many without "asking" first(as long as it was something relatively small and I believed that it wouldn't hurt them). Even if it didn't work out, I wasn't made to feel that it was a bad or ridiculous idea. I think that's what you're feeling or finding offensive--am I right? In other words, he's taking the initiative to try and spice things up or to try something that he believes will rock your world, and instead is met with "Oh--that's gross," or laughter. At least that is the feeling that I am getting. It's important that what you're trying to communicate is not lost in your attempt at sarcasm.. ;-)




Edited 3/11/2006 4:08 pm ET by rain_dancer_iam
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Sat, 03-11-2006 - 4:42pm
I thought that I was doing more than just making an attempt at sarcasm, I thought that I was succeeding. Guess not, huh? Anyway, the point that I was trying to make was that if a man tries something with a woman that he's heard or, or seen, or that might have worked with another women, it doesn't mean that "like most men, he thinks that all women like it", to quote another poster. It just means that he thinks that she might like it and he won't know until he tries. If it doesn't work for the woman in in question, then she should feel free to say so, gently and with understanding. She should, however, try to refain from asking questions such as "Why are you doing that?" and "What are you looking for?", both of which I've been asked on more than one occasion.
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Sat, 03-11-2006 - 5:26pm

I know you were successful in your sarcasm--I was teasing! tee hee

"...should feel free to say so, gently and with understanding."

Yes, that's what I thought.

"She should, however, try to refain from asking questions such as "Why are you doing that?" and "What are you looking for?", both of which I've been asked on more than one occasion."

Well...those aren't so unreasonable, particuarly if she's young and naive, or just naive. I mean, I never heard of anal beads before I came to this board. If my husband brought them home and proceeded to put them up my anus, I might ask those questions(gently and with understanding, of course). ;-)




Edited 3/11/2006 6:01 pm ET by rain_dancer_iam
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Sat, 03-11-2006 - 11:38pm
This was another example of taking a fine point and jumping to a gigantic conclusion, Rice. I'm sure you know what was meant though.

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