Having anal sex with hemorrhoids
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| Thu, 08-25-2005 - 5:25pm |
I am an newlywed and just had my first child almost four months ago. After delivering him I got hemorrhoids that have come and gone. Recently my husband has been expressing to me that he REALLY wants to try and have anal sex again ( we've tried it twice before but it wasn't really my cup of tea so we havent done it since.) He knows that I experienced disscomfort before and knows that the hemorrhoids come and go but would still like to try it because he thinks eventually I might get into it and also because he has heard that anal sex could really be pleasurable for me. I am willing to try this again, but am SO scared that the hemorrhoids will come back.
Has anyone experienced this before, or know if it is okay to have anal sex if you have or have had hemorrhoids??
Thanks for your time and advice!!!

My thoughts would be that you need to decide for yourself what you are comfortable with. Having suffered from those nasty things myself, I would say that they certainly can be aggravated by anal sex but you cannot know for sure without trying.
If you are comfortable with the concept of trying again and normal care is taken, I wouldn't think that more permanent harm would result than from having a difficult b/m as long as proper care and lubrication are used. You might even try using prep. H for lube.
The main consideration is that it should not cause you any form of pain, period. If it does, that should be the end of the discussion.
I can't help but laugh.....he REALLY wants to try it, because he heard it would be pleasurable for YOU! Oh yeah, RIGHT! Hmmmm, where was he the last few times, when you didn't enjoy it?
Anyway, as the other poster said, I can't see how it would be any more harmful than a hard bowel movement. If they pop out again as a result, then maybe your husband will understand that it's not pleasurable for you.
I had to stifle a little snicker at that one myself, Dakine. LOL!
But she said that she already told him that it wasn't her cup of tea, so she shouldn't allow herself to be pressured or coerced into doing it again, just because it's HIS.
To the OP: after only 4 mos. postdelivery, you are still healing. Don't feel pressured to do anything that you're uncomfortable with even when you're 100%. Remind your hubby that it can take a new mother up to 18 mos. to get back to her old self again.
Edited 8/26/2005 1:44 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
To Dakine and Kat - ladies, I think you were a bit harsh on Miralyn's DH. Speaking for myself, I also would like us to have anal not only for my pleasure but for DW's too. While we want to do it, we can't because it is still painful for her to take it inside. Having said that, she LOVES to have my finger inside. She has also read about the intense pleasure (even orgasms) that women feel from anal sex (right here in ivillage messageboards), she does want to a taste of that, so we know we are not going to stop trying.
DW also has haemerhoids after preganancy and basically this is what puts us off from trying too hard. I can understand Miralyn's DH, I too would like that DW doesn't miss out on the pleasure of anal sex (never once denying that I look forward to the pleasure myself).
I would look out for Miralyn's experiences and updates on this subject.