Having many problems with sex.. this isn

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Registered: 12-06-2006
Having many problems with sex.. this isn
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Wed, 12-06-2006 - 11:48pm

FIRST OFF, I am only 20 years old, which is why this whole situation is REALLY REALLY bothering me!!!

Alright, basically my girlfriend and I are taking things a bit fast but not really at the same time. We have NOT had sex yet, but we are (within this relationship so far) just making out and eventually making our ways to oral sex. Now, heres the thing, im not circumsized and I don't know if this is the right place to actually talk about or describe this. But I have noticed that (from what I hear im supposed to be able to) I am NOT able to get the head of my penis exposed, max I can get it out half way before it starts to hurt or the skin just wont pull back anymore. Also, either it was her teeth, or I am VERY sensitive and alot of things that she does will hurt, and I do tell her and she apologizes and then out of nowhere, I'll just randomly lose my erection.

Now, as you can probably tell, this is REALLY bothering me. With 2 of my past girlfriends I have randomly lost erections as well and although neither of those 2 girls would EVER do oral sex, it still hurt for just straight sex as well sometimes, I do have a doctors appointment tomorrow as I want to ask my doctor about this, its starting to worry me alot and well, at least im taking the initiative of making an appointment with my doctor right?

If anyone can give any advice, please let me know. The thing that makes me the happiest out of all of this is that my girlfriend understands and she said she doesn't take it personally because I explained to her before we started doing all of this, is that if it happens dont take it personally. Just gave her a bit of warning ahead of time, might not seem like the right idea to any of you here but i dunno, its really bothering me and like i said she said she doesn't take it personally, she doesn't get mad, etc, etc. but i dont care, theres got to be a small part of her that is not happy about it!

Any women on here... what do you think... same for guys, if you can give me any advice (from either side) I would REALLY REALLY appreciate it!!! Thanks!
-Dave-

Also wanted to add, its kind of odd but I have noticed that if she is performing oral sex on me, I am more (much more) erect than when I am laying on my back, what is the deal with that?

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Registered: 07-26-2005
Thu, 12-07-2006 - 1:33am

It sounds like your circumcision wasn't done properly, but your doctor will be able to determine that. The frenulum might be too short, and need to be "snipped".

Why should your girlfriend get mad or upset, or anything else. It's a problem, you're seeing your doctor and hopefully, it will be solved.

All uncircumcised penises have a very sensitive head....and maybe she doesn't know that. It might just be the frenulum that's hurting you, too. If she's getting you with her teeth, she'll need to learn how to do it without her teeth coming in contact with it.

You're both young, and inexperienced....and even though sex is a "natural" thing....it takes time and practice to get comfortable with it, and enjoy it completely.

PS: You ARE engaging in sex......oral sex is sex, touching is sex, it's ALL sex.....including intercourse.

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Registered: 12-06-2006
Thu, 12-07-2006 - 7:30am

thanks, im not circumsized though so i don't see how it could have been done improper, uness i missing something...

but yea she said she has never been with a guy that wasn't circumsized so i think we will just have to get used to it.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Thu, 12-07-2006 - 7:53am

You have a doctor appt. so you're taking the right steps by asking your doctor.


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