Is he cheating?
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| Mon, 05-16-2005 - 4:16pm |
Yesterday was the first day in a long time that I and my BF of 10 months have been apart, other than being at work. Last night when he got home, we were starting to mess around. I know he had been outside and had not showered since the morning. I started to give him oral and noticed that there was a difference in feel and odor. I can swear by this ... there was a faint odor of how a woman would smell down there. There is no other way to explain it except to say that it smelled like a woman's crotch.
Is that normal for guys or should I be concerned about him being unfaithful? I stopped because I had so many thoughts running through my head. I'm not a paranoid or jealous person. I've never had any reason to believe he would cheat before ... he kisses the ground I walk on.
When I stopped, it's like he knew something was wrong and he told me that I didn't have to do that if I didn't want to. Now, that's the first time he'd EVER said that! I'd like to think that he just felt dirty from being out and about all day. I stopped and we had sex then and again right before we went to bed.
Could someone give some advice other than that I should ask him about it? It was talked about a little but I'm still so cynical.

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Should I be worried that my DH wants to try bondage? Does that mean he's cheating on me? Should I think he's cheating if he wants to do anal more than once in a blue moon?
I think some of these signs of cheating are ridiculous because many of them happen out of curiousity, circumstance, and innocence. My DH has to stay late at work from time to time, but that's just the job he has. I've had to stay late at work before, too. But, again, that was a domineering, evil boss-lady who wouldn't let me drive the 30 minutes home at a reasonable time-like when my shift ended-so that I could get her job done. Err..Anyway, I think some of these signs are silly! Who made up those signs? What professional designated those the rules of cheating?
I used that card. As recently as Saturday, he accused me of calling a guy while I was sitting in my car for a long while when I was only trying to get air and safety from sand knats because we were at the ballfield. It was to the point where HE was in the middle of a game and came off the field to the parking lot. So, then this incident happens Sunday night.
I told him that him accusing me doesn't help me in thinking that he's cheating. I asked if he liked how it felt because I have to deal with it all of the time. The only difference is that I have a legitimate reason AND I didn't accuse him ... I expressed concern. He said he would stop accusing me.
Yeah Jen, I take those "signs" with a grain of salt. I'm a big believer in circumstance.
Edited 5/18/2005 2:57 pm ET ET by wayward_child
Be cautious with jealousy like that. It doesn't tend to lead to cheating, but abusive behavior. I'd be careful.
I think its silly to have these "signs he/she is cheating" advertisements or shows on TV. I mean, when you think about it, everybody does one thing or the other-like stay late at work or try something new in bed-or have a decrease in sexual appetite. I just want to talk to the individual responsible for instilling paranoia into the minds of us that tend to be suspicious from time to time. Sheesh, silly rules for silly things.
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