He couldn't get it up for the 1st time..

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Registered: 09-09-2004
He couldn't get it up for the 1st time..
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Sat, 07-09-2005 - 3:31am

Well, I knew it would happen someday and it finally has. My boyriend and I had sex on the 4th of July and when I went in for round two, the little general was out of service. I don't have enough sexual experience to have had that experience before, and I know I shoul dhave been reassuring and said, "it's ok, no big deal, don't worry about it" and drop the topci so it doesn't turn into a complex for him or me. Well, we had been fooling around for round two and I was ready so I went to .. you know, ahem, start, and he wasn't in his saluting position, so I fooled around some more, checked again, and then he said he was sorry, but he had started touching me and I was phsycially unable to respond to him (LOL) and then I tried giving him, ahem, a hand, and more making out/fooling around, hugging ,etc. But nothing, and he said sorry aagin, but agian I was distracted and unable to speak, so I couldnt give the good supportive girlfriend response so like 20 minutes late after I had whipped out BOB to restore my vocal chords, I said it was ok, he could be tired sometimes. BUt it was like, so much later, I think it turne dinto this awkward silence and I was emabrrassed and for the first time, uncomforable.

So, I know not to make a big deal out of it, and since I probbaly just jumped on him too fast after a long day when he was already grumpy, it's not something that will most likely turn into a regular event,

but I am embarrassed, and I don't know. OSme words of wisdom are welcome. I am embarrassed for me, for him, for the whoel thing, and now i feel shy about it. but i promise i will just act normally the next time we are intimate.

oh thought of another thing, i am irriatedt at him for another reason and deicded i wont be intiatiting contact for our next date amd i usually do, do you think im blowing him off because of this instead of what im mad about??.... nahg i am being silly and paranoid.

Anyway, words of wisdom please. :D

EMily

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Registered: 01-02-2005
Mon, 07-11-2005 - 8:12pm

oh, "frustrated at other aspects"...now I understand better. I think it was just bad timing for you to do this. I'd be feeling insecure and wanting you to call.

I can't get it up occasionally...jeez, I wish we could meet ! You sound pretty understanding NOW and at least I'd be different...a planner, too...I can't fly by the seat of my pants with women.

Thank you for brightening my day with your explanation !

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Mon, 07-11-2005 - 9:05pm

Okay, my misunderstanding.


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