Is he Gay????
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| Thu, 07-12-2007 - 4:01pm |
Okay, here is the situation: My best friend has a serious problem with falling for the wrong guy. She has finally found "Mr. Right". He's so good to her, very loving, and has even talked to her about marriage. He seems almost too perfect for her. Here's the catch...he will not have sex with her. At first we thought it was because her ex-boyfriend (a total loser!) was known to have hepatitis. They talked about it and she went and got checked by her Dr. and was given the all clear. This was three months ago. Everytime I talk to her she says that she's sure they'll have sex by the next weekend. Well, every weekend comes and goes and still nothing. She has given him ample opportunity, but he will not take the bait. For instance, they came home from a dinner date and she said to him, "Let's sleep naked tonight.", his reply was, "Oh, Honey, you're so cute." and then he kissed her on the cheek and put on his pajamas. She stays at his house all the time, and he never wants to let her leave. I just don't understand it. Even his best friend questioned why they weren't having sex. This prompted a conversation about his ex-girlfriend being afraid to have sex and that they never did. He has not been with a woman in eight years. My parents seem to think that he is gay and either is not ready to come out, or doesn't know it yet. I am so concerned because she is my best friend and I would not want her to get hurt. She has already invested her heart and would be devastated if he were really gay, but I think it would be better for her to know if he is so that she could move on. She wants more than anything to have a family and kids, and I'm scared that things will continue and that they'll end up married and she'll end up hurt.
Help!!! Is he gay? What is the best way to bring this up with him?

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Instead of everyone assuming
Welcome to the board dfarley911.
As Tish said, it's really something that your friend should ask her boyfriend about. I'm sure that you want the best for her, but the best thing you could do is encourage her to talk with him about it.
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Now I know sex is important but I really think COMMUNICATION is key.
She needs to ask questions.
Thank you. I have had some made for me by the creative folks on iVillage (there are some boards where you can get siggy's made). More recently, I have began making some of my own. I mostly find the pictures on photobucket and work with them from there.
I have a theme going, and I keep waiting to see if anyone mentions it. Care to take a guess?
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Ah, I see you are a smart one! I thought by now someone would have asked me about it. I'm corny! You know, this is the Let's TALK about Sex board....
IRL, I hate to talk on the phone (LOL).
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