Is he GAY??
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| Tue, 05-10-2005 - 9:10am |
Ok, first of all, WARNING: this is probably going to be a little graphic.
Men, especially, I need YOUR opinion, PLEASE!!!
Ok, the other night when my bf and I were fooling around, we got to talking about threesomes. (just doing some dirty talk at first).
Well, he asked if I would ever be in to the whole two-girl thing, and I told him only if we get to do the two-guy thing.
Neither of us would actually do a threesome, but we just dirty talk each other sometimes about it.
Well, when we were talking about two-guys, he was saying he wouldn't want the other guy to have sex with me, etc. He then started mentioning something about me getting a strap-on dildo for HIM and that it can be very pleasurable for a man, but he has never done it. I guess he would want me to get a strap on and stick it in his a**?? (sorry, I told you it would be graphic)
Well, then, after he mentioned that, I asked him if he would do anything with the other guy if we had a two-guy threesome. He said he would probably let the other guy "suck him off" (blow job) because he didn't think it would be any different than a man doing it, and I was appaled, but didn't act it. I asked him then if he would have anal sex with the guy or if he would let the guy have anal sex to him? And he said YES PROBABLY!!!!
GROSS!
I asked him if he was serious, he said yes, and I asked if it would make him feel gay and he said, "no, it's pretty much the same thing". So he thinks its the same, and no big deal? He said he wouldn't kiss the guy, but still!
Should I be worried about this?? I would THINK it was just dirty talk, but then the next day, when nothing sexual was happening, I asked him if he really would do all that, and he said, "I probably would, if you wanted me to."
Guys, is he GAY??? I've always thought of him as a "manly man". And he seems VERY interested in women. Is he bi? If so, is there a way to find out for sure?? I am just very worried and freaked out by this now. Now, I don't have to worry about other WOMEN, but other MEN!!!!!
Please help.

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These are all questions that you need to be asking HIM, because only HE knows what he really thinks.
If it was just "dirty talk" as you said, then that's all it is. YOU were the one who brought up another man, not him. Maybe he's "bi curious", which doesn't make him gay, but again, only he knows if he really is interested.
Lots of men like "strap ons", and maybe he would too (and they're NOT gay!). If he finds out how much it hurts, that might change his mind real fast.
When he suggested that another woman might be fun, did you immediately think that you have to worry about other women? I doubt it, so why worry about other men because of a discussion?
If you're worried he's gay, why don't you just ask him?
If he says he's not gay or bi, then
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