Is he Gay????
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| Thu, 07-12-2007 - 4:01pm |
Okay, here is the situation: My best friend has a serious problem with falling for the wrong guy. She has finally found "Mr. Right". He's so good to her, very loving, and has even talked to her about marriage. He seems almost too perfect for her. Here's the catch...he will not have sex with her. At first we thought it was because her ex-boyfriend (a total loser!) was known to have hepatitis. They talked about it and she went and got checked by her Dr. and was given the all clear. This was three months ago. Everytime I talk to her she says that she's sure they'll have sex by the next weekend. Well, every weekend comes and goes and still nothing. She has given him ample opportunity, but he will not take the bait. For instance, they came home from a dinner date and she said to him, "Let's sleep naked tonight.", his reply was, "Oh, Honey, you're so cute." and then he kissed her on the cheek and put on his pajamas. She stays at his house all the time, and he never wants to let her leave. I just don't understand it. Even his best friend questioned why they weren't having sex. This prompted a conversation about his ex-girlfriend being afraid to have sex and that they never did. He has not been with a woman in eight years. My parents seem to think that he is gay and either is not ready to come out, or doesn't know it yet. I am so concerned because she is my best friend and I would not want her to get hurt. She has already invested her heart and would be devastated if he were really gay, but I think it would be better for her to know if he is so that she could move on. She wants more than anything to have a family and kids, and I'm scared that things will continue and that they'll end up married and she'll end up hurt.
Help!!! Is he gay? What is the best way to bring this up with him?

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You're obviously not talking about the right things, IRL. ;o)
I don't think it sounds as though he is gay either. And she does need to talk to him about it. More than likely he is 1. either waiting for marriage or 2. has a very low libido.
The advice you got here is good. Tell your friend that she needs to address the issue herself if she is even thinking about marrying the man. If he is very low libido can she live with that?!? I know I couldn't. I married a man like that because I really did love him and I still loved him when I divorced him. But sexually we were SO incompatible that I couldn't stay with him and be happy. Don't let your friend walk into that trap!
They are fantastic…and very creative. Personally, I think they represent the very essence of what sex appeal should be…… feminine, alluring and open to imagination.
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