is he just scared?

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Registered: 06-01-2005
is he just scared?
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Fri, 06-03-2005 - 12:05pm
so, heres the story...the first time i gave this guy head i told him not to cum in my mouth (for fear of gagging/vomitting). Ever since that he doesn't cum at all! i give him head for a loooong time sometimes and he never seems to climax. he's pretty silent too. i hardly know if he's enjoying himself at all (although after he tells me that he loves it). i can't help but feel like i'm not doing something right. i do the whole hand and mouth combo, use my tounge, lips and everything, but he never seems to come to that point of no return. can he still be "loving it" if he doesn't cum?? should have not told him not to cum that first time? and what can i do drive him wild?
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 2:17pm

Not all men cum from oral sex but that doesn't mean it's not good for them and they don't enjoy it.


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Registered: 05-27-2004
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 3:55pm

If he wasn't enjoying it, he wouldn't ask for a repeat performance. Many men can't finish orally.....and it has nothing to do with what you're doing, or not doing. That's just the way they are. Whether or not he finishes has nothing to do with him having pleasure. Also, many men are very quiet during sex.

Don't make a big deal out of it, let him finish any way he's comfortable. Some men can't be "driven wild". It's sufficient for them to enjoy. If and when your mouth or jaw gets tired, then stop. Going on longer isn't going to help. Maybe eventually he'll get more comfortable with it and be able to finish.

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Registered: 06-01-2005
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 4:58pm
so i guess in my situation to "finish him off" i should do it manually then?? which poses a different quesiton altogether: is it bad not to use lube when giving a hand job? most of the times we fool around is not planned and in the heat of the momment rarely would we have access to lube and stopping to go find some just seems dumb. suggestions?
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Registered: 04-17-2005
Sun, 06-05-2005 - 4:26pm
Using lube isn't obligotary, it's just helpful. If you're doing fine without it, why bother?
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Registered: 06-01-2005
Mon, 06-06-2005 - 2:28pm
so i have another issue aswell....i know he doesn't have a lot of experience (as is the same with me), but i'm curious about recieving oral from him. i know there is nothing to be embarrassed about and i know i keep myself clean down there, but he's never even offered to do it. it's not a big deal for me since he's gotten pretty good at using his hands/fingers, but i would still like to experience it. i don't want to ask him and have him say no, or have him hesitate and then do it (because then i won't enjoy it). so how can i approach the subject when we only ever fool around spontaneously and we rarely talk about it outside of the moment. should i just gently nudge his head down?.... or tell him in a sexy way that will make him want to?...Or should i just leave it alone and realize that he'll do it when he's ready?
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Registered: 06-01-2005
Thu, 06-09-2005 - 12:43pm
please?!! anyone out there?!!? the weekend is coming up and there is a pretty good chance that i'll be getting some action. what should i do?!
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Thu, 06-09-2005 - 1:23pm

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