he REFUSES to EVER give oral
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| Tue, 11-11-2008 - 11:21am |
I met this guy, "G" a month ago and we have been flirting off & on (I have written about him before) and have made out, etc.
We talked last week about sex and oral sex came up because his cousin had mentioned that he doesn't let his gf give him oral sex because he feels 'guilty'. I asked if he give sit back to her and he said NO, I NEVER HAVE AND NEVER WILL.
then my guy pipes up and agrees! and says he never has and never will either. They are both 27 friggin years old. I was so appalled and turned off! His cousin asked if that was normal for me where I come from (US as opposed to Italy where we are) and I said hell yes!
Today I talked to "G" and of course sex came up and I told him I didn't feel like we matched up sexually. He knew why and said that giving oral to a man is ok because it's "normal".
Let me tell you he is origanlly from Jordan btw where women are not exactly seen as the same as men. I actually think he is afraid of being horrible at it and that's his main focus.
Anyway it's not that I demand oral but a man has to want to or offer to do it ESPECIALLY if he expects it. I just get the feeling that if I sleep with him it will unsatisfying and he will only be interested in getting himself off.
Would you sleep with a guy who says no to oral...when you love it? and would you give him oral when he says no to you? Men, how do you feel about giving oral? Would you be turned off by a girl who told you you were likely a bad lover without giving it? haha

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Welcome to the board, Elle.
There are both men and women who refuse to give oral, some who are also uncomfortable receiving oral. Personally, I don't think I'd be satisfied in a relationship with someone who said they have never and would never do it. I think it's important to at least be willing to try things that your partner has an interest in (so long as it's safe and legal).
You're the only person who can decide if this is a deal breaker for you. If he tried it, and didn't like it, would it still make you feel the same?
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Is this another one of your vendors?
Oral isn't the most important thing to me anyway but I would have a hard time with a totalitarian in or out of the bedroom.
No oral, giving and receiving along
Welcome to the board, Jasbo.
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