He thought I was going to hurt him??

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Registered: 01-16-2007
He thought I was going to hurt him??
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Sat, 01-20-2007 - 5:40pm

The other day I was with a guy I have been seeing. We started messing around and we started undressing each other. I was sitting on top of him and went to unbutton his pants, when he pushed me to the side real quick. He yelled at me and rolled over because he thought i was going to hit him, in his "area" as he said. lol. It was so weird/ funny. I was also very confused. I never thought about doing anything so mean to him. When I asked him why he thought that he just said "I don't know I just did". What? ok.

I always thought when we start undressing each other, that it would lead to something else besides trying to bring him to his knees. I don't believe I moved real quick to his jeans and startled him either.

I don't know, he is really confusing.

Has anybody ever had this happen to them, or know why he could think that?

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Sun, 01-21-2007 - 1:00am

They say that "Once bitten, twice shy" so I guess that he's been in a similar situation at some time that resulted in a blow to the groin.

How significant this one incident is, I don't know. He may have had a g/f do that to him in the past, he may have had a friend or sibling clobber him in a game of rough-and-tumble and for a brief instant he recalled that moment, he may have been locked in a basement as a child and abused for years.... I don't think that you can say at this point what it's about. There is no point you overreacting over one isolated incident either. Dismiss it from your mind for the time being.

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Registered: 09-18-2005
Mon, 01-22-2007 - 1:58pm
i agree with the last post. i think its happened to him before. how close are you? can you talk to him about this issue? even if you can't, maybe try going slow, making it sensual and reassure him, your there for pleasure not pain. guys are sensitive too, they just won't admit it. ;) good luck!