Is he too BIG for me?

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Registered: 07-24-2004
Is he too BIG for me?
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Sat, 07-24-2004 - 12:07pm
One of my ex-boyfriends that I just slept with again yesterday is really...well, BIG. He has to buy extra large condoms (I'm not kidding - I wish that I were). Anyway, I've been with my share of guys, but I've never seen anything like this before. I lost my virginity to him and he lost his to me about five years ago, and it still hurt to have sex with him yesterday even though I've been with quite a few guys in between! How is that possible?! It made me feel like a virgin again, which was really kind of cool, but at the same time, it was really strange. If I have sex with him in the future, will things ever get any better for me? Thanks for reading!

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Registered: 07-22-2004
Sat, 07-24-2004 - 4:47pm
Hi stardoll. I mmmmight have some comforting words for you. :)

Getting down to the nitty gritty...slow sensual penetrations worked much better for us than actual thrusting did. Allowing your parts to 'adjust' to the slow introduction of him may prove very effective if you haven't tried that method. As you become more comfortable and aroused, then you'll probably become more capable of accepting more of him at a deeper and/or faster rythm.

As always though, I'd focus more on perfecting the from foreplay first, to get you as fully aroused as much as possible. The Mrs. & I many times enjoy sensual body massages to start. You'll get plenty of pointers, I'm sure.

Good luck to ya. :)

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sat, 07-24-2004 - 6:05pm

Since he is an ex-boyfriend, were you a little nervous about it, maybe a little hesitant?


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Registered: 07-24-2004
Sat, 07-24-2004 - 10:44pm
You are right, I was a little nervous. I was plenty lubricated, though, because I really wanted him. He even made a comment about how wet I was. I've never dated anyone as long as I've dated him, and I've never found anyone else like him. I really miss him. What you said about babies coming through there makes sense, too. I forgot about that. The muscles must be pretty resilient. Thanks for replying to me!
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Registered: 07-24-2004
Sat, 07-24-2004 - 10:47pm
Thanks for replying to me. What you said makes a lot of sense. I guess that I was just nervous because I miss him and I was so shocked that I had the chance to be with him again.
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Registered: 05-27-2004
Sun, 07-25-2004 - 1:42am
I agree with everyone else, but for a slightly different reason. If you've had no problems with other men.....it was because of being nervous about being back with him, but ALSO.....you remember the pain from the first time around, and when you saw how large he was, you tensed up. As Tish said, your vagina can stretch to accomodate ANY man, but not if you're nervous. If a baby can pass thru it, any man can fit. Give it some time, use additional lubrication if you have to, and relax.
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Registered: 07-24-2004
Mon, 07-26-2004 - 12:09am
What you said makes a lot of sense. I didn't even consider that I was possibly remembering my first time with him, and that I was probably just shocked and surprised at remembering how big he was.
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Registered: 04-13-2004
Mon, 07-26-2004 - 12:45pm
I think so although he will always feel very large to you. It will depend how excited and turned on you are also. If you are very turned on and wet, his penis might feel large still, but will go in easier. If you're not that turned on, be careful! It won't feel all that great. My ex-hubby had a large penis (bigger than my current hubby) and it always felt large to me. If he wanted sex and I didn't - his penis always felt too big and it was kinduv of a turn off.

I always thought I liked large penis's, but now I'm finding out I like them just average size. Average size for me is: 7" long x 5" a-round. I wouldn't want anything less and well, I guess if he were a little bigger, it wouldn't bother me, but I'm very happy with what I have, haha. Plus if the guy is average size, it is easier to do lots of different positions easily.

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Registered: 07-24-2004
Mon, 07-26-2004 - 1:06pm
I agree with what you said about it being easier to try different positions if he is an average size. I've had guys be both too big and too small to properly do positions that I wanted to try. If he's really big, it hurts, and if he's really small, it's boring and doesn't feel like much.
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Registered: 05-03-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 2:21am
Youre not kidding about the position thing. I went from feast to famine from my last boyfriend to my husband now. My last boyfriend was 9 1/2 inches(I know because I measured LOL) and while he felt INCREDIBLE he was too big to do it from behind or with him and top and my legs up over his shoulders (banged against my cervix too much). My husband now though is 4 inches. Thats actually MUCH more limiting. I cant be on top because he slips out....from behind doesnt work for the same reason and I have to put my legs together when hes on top of me to feel anything. Perfect would be somewhere in between the two :)
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Registered: 07-16-2004
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 9:59am
Do you think your self gratification is more important than your marriage. I mean it is a big part of it. If he cant satisfy you in bed, then what? Do you think that because of his limitations that you will stay with him?

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