He wants to know what I want!
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He wants to know what I want!
| Sun, 03-12-2006 - 5:49pm |
Ok, now any woman in their right mind would be absolutly enthralled to hear their partner ask what they want, and be all about pleasing them. Don't get me wrong, I love it....I just have a hard time giving the proper reply. My boyfriend and I have a great sex life, and are both very open and comfortable with each other. We try new things all the time....we go through at least 3-5 positions in each session (ok, so session isn't exactly the word I was looking for)Anyways, my point is, I feel awkward when he asks me what I want. what do I say? By the time he asks me, we've done all that is possible in our given situation (our only place is in his small messy bedroom.) So typically I just ay "I dunno....anything you want to do." Wich is obviously not what he wants to hear, becasue he continues to aks me. Guys: what does he want to hear me say???? Girls: what are some good creative things that I can ask him to do for me????? please help.

It may not even be creative ideas that he is after. He may just want you to have your say in the bedroom. Perhaps you could be more assertive so that he feels that he is giving you what you want rather than just it all being about what he wants and what he suggests. Try suggesting different positions - the ones that you like. Tell him to go on top, to go behind you, to let you get on top - I suspect that it doesn't really matter to him as long as he feels that you are doing what you want to do for a change. In fact, he'd probably just once love to hear you say something like "Well, what I really want is for you to go down on me and make me cum. Then when you've done that I want you to get on top of me and I want to feel you cum inside me."
As far as getting creative goes? Well, it's difficult if you are limited to a small untidy bedroom. I would have suggested sex in different rooms, or sex in the shower or something for a change. Maybe you could ask him to go down on you? Tell him to lie back and enjoy and go down on him? What about sex toys? Have you tried those? How do you feel about them?
Hi Lipgloss
The others have made some good suggestions. What you haven't told us, other than the fact that you have sex in 3-5 positions, what variations you enjoy. Do you participate in oral sex; he on you and you on him? How about mutual masturbation. The next time you have your period and would rather not have ic, ask him to masturbate for you. He might find that to be a turn on for him. It might also be a turn on for you. Next time you can masturbate for him. Do you use toys?
Redbaron
Why don't you let the response take care of itself. Sounds like you both are already doing what comes natural and the questions appears to be imposing pressure on you.
He may be looking for some new ideas. Maybe the response should be, "Lets just each go for it and we'll say something if it doesn't feel right". His or your ideas may turn out to be better than you think.