He wants me to talk dirty! What do I do?

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Registered: 07-10-2004
He wants me to talk dirty! What do I do?
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Sat, 07-10-2004 - 8:19pm
My boyfriend and I have a really great sex life, but sometimes he wants me to talk dirty to him and that's never really been my thing. I have no idea what to say. I ask him and he says "whatever comes out". Well, I have no idea what to do. That just really isn't something I want to do, but I want to make him happy so I'm willing to try it. What should I say? What to guys want to hear their girlfriends say? If anybody has any advice, please share!
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Registered: 05-14-2004
Sat, 07-10-2004 - 8:33pm
We can't say what you have to say "on this board" or we would be kicked off. Try Google and do a search on Dirty Talk.
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Registered: 05-18-2004
Sat, 07-10-2004 - 10:02pm
Nice when they are so vague about what they want, huh? ;o) I would start out by saying what you like. For example, I like they way you lick my ____. I use pretty raunchy words myself. Then you can get into what you want him to do to you, and what you want to do to him. The more you do it the less awkward you will feel, and the easier it will be to get to dirty talkin'. ;o)

Leticia

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Registered: 12-24-2003
Sun, 07-11-2004 - 12:26pm
In addition to what Leticia said, try listening to what and how he says his dirty talk. Mirror back verbally, and try to make it sound genuine. If it really gets too uncomfortable for you, just yell back, "Shut up and have sexual intercourse with me."

Speaking for myself, I like it nasty, decriptive, loud, and raw.

(The loud part is hopefully a subconscious/in the heat of the moment type of thing.)

As far as specifics: I like hearing how good it feels like being so deep inside. Generically, I like when she talks about how good my penis feels to her. I love it when my wife tells me to go harder in a very dirty way. (I'm not trying to be vague here, just not trying to get warned - again). When I'm going down on her, I like hearing feedback mainly to let me know if I'm hitting the right spot at the right moment with the right instensity. The lack of noise is my cue to move to a different spot, or go harder until I hear our safeword -- ouch.

I like how she tells me how much she loves me. Ok, the last one wasn't dirty, but when I'm having my orgasms inside her, hearing the words whispered, "I love you so much" makes my orgasm so much more explosive.

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Mon, 07-12-2004 - 1:09pm
He means things like: When he's thrusting in and out of you to say "Harder" and "screw me, you -----" (hunk of ----) (kinda hard to say anything here, but you get the gist). My husband will tell me what he's going to do to me very explicitly and he'll ask me if that's what I want, then I repeat it to him and add my own extras like how big he's going to feel and I'm soaken wet just talking about it. Tell him to suck and lick your ----- - whatever it is and how hot and swollen you feel, etc. etc. We do a lot of dirty talking during foreplay and while we're still dressed and then undressing. Tell him you don't think you're going to be able to get his pants off him because he's too swollen and huge -and oh my - what will you do? hehe.

Just a few ideas for ya.

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Registered: 12-24-2003
Tue, 07-13-2004 - 12:49am
"Tell him you don't think you're going to be able to get his pants off him because he's too swollen and huge -and oh my - what will you do?"

-- That was funny!

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Tue, 07-13-2004 - 12:58pm
It is funny, huh! I so agree, haha. And yet, when clothes are halfway off and your in the throes of the teasing stage, that sure fits the bill!