He won't cum inside of me ....
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| Tue, 08-03-2004 - 3:59pm |
I've been dating this guy for 7 months now. I really enjoy our sex and really have no complaints, except ... one. I feel connected to him and we've had some very passionate sex recently and I've asked him to cum inside of me. (We don't use condoms but I am on the pill ... please no lectures on that point, I've heard it all!!) I've asked him a couple of times now and he's said no each time. He seems to think by doing that I have more of a chance of getting pregnant. I've told him it doesn't matter if he cums inside of me or not, the chances are still the same since we're not using protection.
Basically, I know I can't expect anyone who answers this post to have an answer to "magically" make him change his mind, but any suggestions? Its not the biggest deal to me but I feel like since I'm being so intimate with him that I'd like to "finish" the act so to speak. Anyways, let me know what you think!! Thanks!!

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You definitely deserve to be "finished" off as you desire. You're putting your body out there for him and pleasing him, he needs to please you too. If he won't, then you will always be frustrated and aggravated with the situation. I know I was, so I got out of it.
This sounds like a man who is VERY concerned about AND the that comes along with the very risks you are trying to convince him to take. NOW...if its true that we men can be really stubborn, LOL, especially those of us who are hooked on this thought process, then you my dear are simply NOT gonna have any chance at changing his mind.
This one I really wouldn't push on him, jackpot. He really feels he's making the right choice and is obviously very afraid of the risk factor. YOU feel confident that there is not enough of a risk to worry about, but he feels the same way as probably 99% of the rest of the world about it, so I wouldn't pressure him too hard on it.
So long as he knows you want more intimacy with him, then I think that alone should really count for something. He knows how special you view him in your relationship because of that, but until you two are ready and willing to accept the of that very risky move you're pushing for, I wouldn't bother him about it anymore.
Just my two cents. Sorry I couldn't help ya there. :)
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For me, if I had a boyfriend who insisted on always climaxing outside of me, that would be a deal breaker.
Edited to add: Besides, what do other couples do? They rely on BC pills (the most reliable method) or other precautions. Guys who won't climax in you have other issues or bigger issues about pregnancy and trusting women to take the pills, if you ask me. Which no one did, lol - JMHO.
Edited 8/3/2004 5:02 pm ET ET by tiana_rose
I don't think there is a magical answer to change his mind.
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