He won't do it!! :'(
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He won't do it!! :'(
| Wed, 08-01-2007 - 4:08pm |
My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year and a half. I am four years younger than him and I want to have as much fun as I can while I'm young, but he doesn't see it that way. He has his mind set on buying a golf course that he has NO money to pay for it (and doesnt even play golf) and would rather talk about that than sex with me or almost anything else for that matter. We both still live with our parents because we are in college(I'm just starting and he is almost done) and we don't have the money to live together or get married. We have sex whenever he wants to because I love it and am always willing (but unfortunatly for me he's not). Also unfortunatly for me I've never had an orgasm with him or without him. I have asked him many times to give me oral because maybe that will give me an orgasm and have even sent him things to read that I found online about it but he never reads them. He says I'm 'pressuring' him to do something that he doesn't want to do because it's gross to him. I love giving him blowjobs and for some reason I still do even though he wont reciprocate the favor. He says he doesnt have a fantasy and doesnt want to or care what mine is. I asked him today if he wanted to come over after work and get a shower with me (he works outside at a golfcourse and my parents are out of town) and he said no almost instantly. I dont understand why he wont do these things! I love him to death but this is really frusturating for me. Is there a way to get him to try giving me oral without 'pressuring' him too much?
Edited 8/2/2007 9:15 am ET by justinsbaby122
Edited 8/2/2007 9:15 am ET by justinsbaby122

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OK, let's play the listening game ... Am I hearing you right?
No money, no real job plans, no oral sex for you, no new bedroom games, no talking about it, no fantasies, no no no no ...
One has to wonder what good things you're getting out of the deal. Do you just like to say you have a boyfriend.
You're just starting college. You're never going to find such a concentration of similar aged people ever again. Get out there & meet someone who wants to try new things.
College is about learning new things. You'll be able to get cheap tickets to theater, art shows, concerts! Enjoy it! The "real" world is expensive & difficult.
Unless you have to get a job during school, you'll never have that much free time again.
=)
i know you like giving him bjs but any man who is totally fine with you doing that for him all the time yet says he doesn't want to return the favor and won't even try because it's 'gross' is kind of selfish and immature. has he ever tried going down on you? if he hasn't, then how does he know it's gross if he has never even tasted you? maybe he had a bad experience with a girl doing that but he shouldn't project that onto you...i have had a few bad experiences giving guys bjs but i still do it for my bf because it's different with him.
also, is there anything else he wants you to do for him that you don't love doing but will anyway?
In golf there is a term for a golfer who can't play well at all, he's referred to as a duffer. What do you get out of this relationship? It sounds to me like your reward is sexuall and emotional frustration. Me thinks you should let him play through and find yourself a more attentive caddy. He's married to this pie in the sky idea of a golf course, well i wanted to play pro football and that didn't happen either, but I spent gobs of time dining out and making my girl feel special. You deserve much more, come on, a guy who wont go down on you, refuses an offer for a shower. Let dorf go play golf, you go find yourself someone who really cares about you
Wish ya luck
Solve et Coagu
I have to agree with the others. Unless your idea of a "relationship" is to be frustrated and unhappy.....why are you staying with this guy? He's more interested in his mythical golf course than you!
You're very young, you don't have a clue what a relationship is supposed to be like, and you're going to start college, where there will be a literal smorgasbord of guys for you to choose from.....and who will undoubtedly treat you better than this selfish guy does.
Wish him luck with his dream, and go off to school.....and enjoy!
Your young he's dumb! Why are you with him????
Quit wasting time and energy on him. Do you want to
marry him? I wouldn't! Let him play golf. You go get
some real fun. Sounds like he'd rather be friends to me.
You don't need that.
You can do better!
kareese
Let dorf go play golf
LOL loved that
Welcome to the board justinsbaby122.
If he's not at least willing to talk with you about what's going on (or not going on) in your sex life, then chances are, you're not going to be able to change anything. Perhaps he has a much lower libido than you do, perhaps it's not the right time in his life to have a GF, or perhaps he is just selfish. Whatever the case may be, you are young. This is a time in your life where you are learning about relationships and opportunities. Don't stop yourself in your tracks -- get out there and enjoy what the world has to offer you!
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