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Headaches?
| Thu, 01-11-2007 - 6:06pm |
I recently got into a new sexual relationship, things are going great, I dont always orgasm but I know we just need time to learn each other's bodies (read here - he just needs time to learn mine) He doesnt have a problem reaching orgasm, and I'm happy I get to 'get him there', I have no problem when he comes and I dont. Except when we have sex three time in a row and he comes three time in a row, and I come.... no times in a row. He gets me all built up and really close, but comes before I do, and then he's done. (Again, I can work with this because I know he just needs time to get to know how my body works.) The thing is, after about the third time, when I'm still interested and "playing around" with him, he says if he tries again he'll get a headache, so we pretty much stop and he knocks out and I lay there all disgruntled and frustrated. Is that a normal reaction for him? Do guys get headaches if they overwork their 'main man'? I know they can run out of sperm and a dry orgasm probably isnt that comfortable (but then again, what do I know), but is that his excuse of getting out of another round or is it a legitimate complaint? He's talked about using toys to satisfy me (and him) in our romps, so he's showing me he's at least interested in pleasing me, but I wonder.... He's offered to manually stimulate me but, darn it all, I guess I'm just too particular - after getting worked up with sex, pretty much all I want is... sex. I dont want fingers, tongue, toys - I want him! Anyway, I guess I just want to know if, medically, its natural for him to have a headache after a few rounds of sex. Thanks for any tips!

I think it's a medical miracle that he can "make it" three times in a row! If it's "normal" for him to get headaches then, then it's "normal" for him. Everyone is different.
I'm wondering if you know that most women don't have orgasms from intercourse alone? I'm also wondering if you realize that you're not "getting him there"...any more than he's not "guilty" of you not having orgasms. He "gets there" on his own, and if he's doing all he can (or all that you'll LET him do) and it's not happening for you, that's NOT his fault. He can't GIVE you orgasms.
Most women need clitoral stimulation, whether oral or manual, to have orgasms, and 80% of women do NOT have orgasms from intercourse alone...even during intercourse, most of us need clitoral stimulation.
For most of us, it's foreplay that starts the ball rolling....and once we have them during foreplay, we might even have them from intercourse....and what difference does it make if he uses his fingers, his tongue or his penis, it's ALL him! I think you're lucky that this guy WANTS to try whatever he can to get you there...and I don't understand why you won't let him.
Check out www.the-clitoris.com for more information on orgasms, how to have them, etc.