hedoesn't like to eat

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Registered: 08-26-2004
hedoesn't like to eat
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Thu, 08-26-2004 - 8:02am
can someone help me? my bf doesn't like to go down on me. he says that he doesn't like it. he says that its not me it's just the thought that makes him a little queasy. is there anything i can do?
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Thu, 08-26-2004 - 8:16am

Besides talking to him about it, there's nothing you can do to make him want to do it.


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Registered: 05-27-2004
Thu, 08-26-2004 - 8:51am
Some men don't like giving oral sex. Simple as that. How old is he? Maybe as he gets older, he'll learn the pleasure of doing it, but you certainly can't force him.

My ex husband expected oral sex from me, but refused to reciprocate. One day I told him that if he didn't, I wouldn't. He didn't believe me at first....but he finally agreed to try. After 10 seconds, he ran gagging and choking for the bathroom. Believe me, NOT a good experience for either of us, and certainly not very good for my self esteem.

It's up to you how you handle it. Accept it, or move on if it's important to you.

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Registered: 08-12-2004
Thu, 08-26-2004 - 10:00am
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The key word here is...EX husband....I'm sure that's not the only reason for divorce, but deffinitely one of them

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Registered: 02-03-2004
Thu, 08-26-2004 - 4:18pm
I had the same problem with my man...and after a little coaxing and patience, he agreed to do it for the first time a year ago...I was only the second woman he had done this too, it lasted about 30 seconds, a few weeks later, he did it again for about 3 minutes...then it went to 5 minutes, now he does it for at least 5 minutes and enjoys it! It just takes time, and also I let him know how much I enjoyed him doing that to me. It really helped to boost his ego!
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Registered: 04-04-2003
Thu, 08-26-2004 - 9:32pm
I recently had a boyfriend who was incredibly, incredibly good at it, but he sure didn't like to do it very often. When he would, he'd go on for like 15-20 minutes, just turning my backbone into jello. (I learned from him that if the guy uses his fingers AND his tongue, and even gets my own fingers involved, so much the better!) I would suck and suck and suck him, but you really can't barter for it -- I think it's a non-starter to say, I won't if you won't. You just kind of make it easy for him and hope he will. As they say, you can lead a horse to water ...