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Registered: 02-15-2006
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Wed, 02-15-2006 - 2:20am
I love my guy but he has a slight problem....when we are having sex, it slips out! i don't know why but its very frustrating! what could be wrong!? and its an even bigger problem getting it back in, someone please help!
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Registered: 07-26-2005
In reply to: lizzydedr
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 2:38am

How long have you two been sexually active? How old are you? If he comes out, then he doesn't have the right rhythm, or something. Maybe you need to try different positions, something where he has more control over his movements.

I don't know why it would be hard to get it back in. Is he slipping out or unable to get back in because he's losing his erection? If he's not losing his erection, then you just need more practice.

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Registered: 02-15-2006
In reply to: lizzydedr
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 2:55am
I'm 20 and i've been active for a while, we've tried different positions and nothing seems to work! lol
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: lizzydedr
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 10:12am

This is most often a timing issue. He's thrusting at the same time you are and you can't anticipate one another's movements well enough yet. That comes with time and practice.

Could be angle as well but in the cases where my DH has slipped out, it was when I was moving away at the same he was.

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Registered: 02-17-2006
In reply to: lizzydedr
Fri, 02-17-2006 - 10:12am
Hya. We`ve had that problem sometimes. You can get quite thick ribbed, bumpy condoms. Seems to grip better and adds a bit of fun
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Registered: 11-15-2003
In reply to: lizzydedr
Fri, 02-17-2006 - 2:19pm

Lizzy,

Like others here have said, this is a rhythm problem...still not sure why getting him back in is a problem?

Anyway, consider slowing down a bit, spend more time grinding rather than thrusting and you will begin to get a sense of each others natural rhythms and will pick up cues (unconsciously) as to what movements he will make.

I have been with the same woman (my wife) for MANY years. But I do remember the first time that we had sex. Her vagina, hips, physical height, breasts, sensitivities, what she liked, what she didn't like were different than my previous girlfriend, so there was a little bit of awkwardness, but actually, learning all about how she worked (and still learning after 18 years) was fun. Every time that you are with a new person it is really like learning all over again, because they are individuals. Just part of the process.

Good luck,
Scott.