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| Thu, 12-07-2006 - 12:05am |
..been married for 7 years, knew her 4 years prior to that, all along, she loved when I gave her oral, but never, NEVER, did I get it back. I just held on all along hoping that things would change, no luck. I talked to her about it, and she says she doesn't like the taste of my precu^^. Well, I tried flavored condo^^$, she didn't like it, tried a couple of diet tricks, no luck. The one thing that does seem to work is that if my organ is erect & dry, she doesn't mind, but once there is any trace of that gummy gooey stuff, she runs away. Am I not being reasonable in expecting reciprocal gestures? Get this, she loves it anytime I give it to her, even when her AF comes visiting!! I do it because I love it, and I know she loves it, but this seems to be a one way street. Outside of this issue, our s3x life r0(ks.
To my female readers - were you or are you affected by similar taste/looks issue? If yes, how did you overcome this. Any tips you can share will be appreciated.

There are many women who just don't like doing it. Of course you're not wrong for expecting reciprocation, but if she doesn't like it, she doesn't like it. ("Diet tricks" change nothing, that's not medically proven!) Whatever her hangups are, they're hers, and she's the only one who can overcome them.
As a woman, I've never had a problem with "taste"....and most healthy men have NO taste beyond saltiness. But, that's me....not her. I wish I could offer you a solution, but beyond not doing it for her.....you can't change her. Maybe some day she'll have an epiphany!
I've never had a problem with the taste of pre-cum or ejaculate but that's me, all women are different.
No, you're not being unreasonable at all, and neither is she. The only thing that I can suggest to help your situation is to incorporate "foods". If it's that she has a problem with the taste, then she can try to use something to mask the taste. For example, she can squirt some whipped cream, chocolate sauce or anything else she likes (as long as it's not spicy or harsh, lol) on your penis when she's trying it - it might just work.
I don't know what else to say. I hope it works out for you.
Edited 12/7/2006 11:56 am ET by princess_j2006
My boyfriend sounds a lot like you. He loves to go down, if AF is here or not he loves it... and I love going down on him too, I love knowing that I can control him and he loves what I am doing. I would hate to hear him tell me he cant because he doesnt like the taste. On the other hand I can agree with your wife, the precum has a more sticky feel to it than the actaul cum, I wouldnt say it taste any different but it kind of hangs out in your mouth where the cum you just take it down. The cum comes all at once, you dont have to taste it, just swallow.
Maybe she isnt getting enough saliva going, that is usually the only time I even notice it. Have her try using some ice to get more wet so it kind of mixes in with her saliva and the water from the ice. That might help it go down a little easier. This sounds kind of odd but maybe she just need to let her saliva run down, her hand will get a little wet but that helps too.
Hope I helped
I definitely feel that your wife is being unfair since it sounds like she's opposed to doing anything to solve this issue.
She could do several things to help overcome her squeamishness about your preejaculate....pop a mint to keep the taste at bay and keep her saliva flowing, use flavored lubricants, sip from a soda every so often, but truthfully, just working on her mindset is the first step. Where there is a will, there IS a way.
Personally, I would feel terrible if I were depriving my DH this way and be committed to do everything in my power to solve the problem.
IF worse came to worse, and she continues to refuse to try and work on this, AND it's resulting in building resentment, you could boycott oral for her, to give her a taste of her own medicine. Of course, that would be the absolute last resort, too.
But you should definitely try and impress on her how deprived you truly feel by not receiving reciprocal pleasure from her. I would hope that she could and would find SOME way to get around the taste of your pre-ejaculate.
Edited 12/7/2006 4:57 pm ET by katmandoo2001