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| Sun, 09-10-2006 - 3:13pm |
My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 and ½ years. When it was our first time together, he couldn’t get himself to ejaculate. Overtimes, I had to help him (stroke) to get him to cum, and then it continue on until he was able to do it without my help.
We hardly have sex, only once a week and we’re only 23 and 25 years old. When I want sex, he would tell me that he’s too tired, and so I stop asking him. Over the years, we tried different sex position and different method to get his sex-drive going, yet it has not change our sex life much.
I noticed that he often mention of women with bigger breasts (mine are very small) and he enjoys stroking himself and that worry me.
Could it be me that he is not interested in? Is there anything that I can do to change this sex life?
Please help!!!!
Thanks!
P Lee

What you have to do is talk to him about your sex life.
>>Could it be me that he is not interested in?<<
Perhaps. We simply can't say for sure. However it is much more likely that he does like you and desire you. I think that you would notice other problems in the relationship if he simply didn't like you. It sounds more likely that he is simply happy with sex much less often than you are. Perhaps he would like more sex but the two of you have gotten into a routine and he thinks that you don't want sex as often either now that you have stopped asking?
>>I noticed that he often mention of women with bigger breasts (mine are very small) and he enjoys stroking himself and that worry me.<<
Although it's, perhaps, not very diplomatic of him to talk about women with large breasts in front of you, it's not unusual for a guy to like something about women that his partner doesn't have. But then it's not unusual for women to like something about men that their man hasn't got either - a big wallet perhaps? ;-) That doesn't mean that you love him any less if he hasn't got a big wallet.
Stroking himself? That would indicate to me that he does have a normal sex drive and may be interested in more sex. Most men will masturbate by themselves regardless of how much or how little sex they are getting, but the odds are that he would be interested in more sex.
The answer? Well, we don't know for sure what the problem is. He is the only one that will know that. As awkward as it may be, you will have to talk to him and figure out how the two of you can compromise and meet somewhere in the middle.
I think if he doesnt find you sexualy attractive anymore then you need to find someone who does. But after 5 1/2 years together thats easier said then done.
I wouldnt do something drastic like getting breast implants, because he seems to be turned on by girls with larger breasts. Have you tried things like dressing up, roll playing, or even pretending like you dont know each other and picking each other up?
And when he says hes tired maybe you can do things that would help him relax, and may also turn him on, like having a bath/shower together, or giving him a massage.
I hope you can work things out, and get your sex life back on track.
Becky