Help! Big Sex Issue in New Relationship
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| Mon, 11-19-2007 - 10:35pm |
First hi, first timer on this board.
Ok, my problem. After an exhaustive search for the past 3 years for just the right guy to share my world, he's finally found me. And I'm tickled to have found him and he with I. We've been together just less than 2 months. We're already exclusive and see long-term potential in each other.
What's the problem? Well first, physically he isn't my usual type and I wasn't strongly attracted to him initially; it was his great personality that one me over. But still it took awhile to see him sexually. Then we went to finally have sex and turns out he has erectile performance anxiety. He can't sustain an erection for more than a minute or so and he goes soft. We've tried 3 times and each time, same thing. Can't keep it up. I've been very supportive and all but I don't know what to do. He says its just nerves and that its happened before with an ex he deeply cared for and that it'll go away in time.
While I can be patient, here's the next problem. My issue with seeing him sexually is starting to come back. And it doesn't help that he has such a goody-goody, almost wholesome type nature, while I'm more of a raunchy balls-out type of girl, used to bad boys that really throw down in the bedroom. But I so want this relationship to work as he is the type of guy I need and want to be with; one I can see a future with.
So any advice on the erection problems? Any on how to keep the sexual attraction? The more I think about the disapointing sex, the less sexual attraction I'm beginning to feel for him and that worries me.
Hope that doesn't sound completely shallow. I really want to make this situation better.

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