HELP! Friend+Sex=shame

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Registered: 05-28-2004
HELP! Friend+Sex=shame
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Tue, 06-29-2004 - 11:11pm
Hmmm...Well, I just slept with a guy friend. I didn't regret it until the next morning. I'm not interested in turning our friendship into romance at all, but I don't know why I still feel so...I can't even describe it. The thing is, I just broke up with my boyfriend a few months ago and when my friend came over one night, one thing led to another. So my question is, how do I get rid of this sick feeling everytime I think about what we did. The sad part is I don't really even care if I lose him and our friendship...some friendship huh? But how can I get rid of these unwanted emotions? He told me not to dwell on it and I'm trying to stop. I don't even know why I am because it didn't mean anything at all. Thanks for reading.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 12:01am
Maybe you feel as though you let YOURSELF down somehow. Or you compromised your standards or morals. IF so, then learn from the experience and let it go. We ALL make mistakes though.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 7:49am
Everyone does things they regret, consider a mistake or feel shame about.

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Fri, 07-02-2004 - 3:57pm
Good judgment is usually learned by the mistakes we make,(usually caused by bad judgment)...lol If it wasnt sex within a relationship, then look at it as "just sex" Bye the way my belief is if a person is in a relationship, there is no such thing as "just sex" with or without their mate.
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Tue, 07-06-2004 - 2:06am
IDEALLY, humpdaddy....we learn to avoid making the same mistakes we see our friends, etc. making so that we don't HAVE to make them ourselves! OF course, that doesn't always work because ego and a belief that "it won't happen to me" overtakes over good judgement, too.