HELP! It Hurts When He Enters Me

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Registered: 11-09-2004
HELP! It Hurts When He Enters Me
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Wed, 11-10-2004 - 1:36am
I was a virgin until I got married last month. It took us 4 days to be able to make love because I was so tight. The question I have is, when he first enters me it hurts a lot, but once we get about 1 -2 inches in I’m fine and the pain is gone. Why is this? Will be like this forever? Also, I am not naturally liberating. So when we have to put lube on, it completely kills the mood fro me. Any ideas? I’m hoping to see him this thanksgiving for a few days (he’s in training for Iraq) so I want to make the mot out of it. Any ideas? Thank you for ANY help!

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Registered: 08-03-2003
Wed, 11-10-2004 - 10:09pm
you definitely need to relax. my first few times it was a bit uncomfty/painful when he first entered, even now a bit because we're in a long distance relationship .. not painful at all just takes me awhile to warm up, even though fully fully lubricated...naturally and we always have lube on hand. i agree you shouldnt expect it to be some romantic flowing thing, it hardly is. you'll get dry, and you'll need the lube. foreplay is key, make suree hes payin slow steady attention to your needs and wants. i agree that u need to want the sex before it happens and already be on edge, it makes things much more enjoyable. so definitely relax, and let things take their course. it takes time and practice. foreplay is the other crucial ingredient. presuming u r married and have that emotional connection it makes it that much more intimate. maybe you rushed right into intercourse, and maybe need to focus on foreplay for awhile. good luck!

<3cari

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Registered: 11-09-2004
Sun, 11-14-2004 - 10:24pm
Thank you all for your advice so far. If, I say if because not I’m not sure if I’ll be able to see him over thanksgiving, I just no able to afford it right now. So if there is a miracle which will allow me to se my husband, there would be no way for us to get a hotel since money is so tight right now, and his family would be upset if we did. He is very close to them, and I don’t want to take him away from them since he is going to Iraq, and this might be the last time we see him… Anyway. So since we cant get a hotel, when we do have the opportunity to make love, (I was able to talk to my husband last night, he is going crazy with lust), it will mostly need to be quick and to the point, no time for romancing. Any ideas?

PS

Would everyone please pray that we can find a way for me to be able to see him? I just really want to spend all the time I can with him. I love him so much, and I hate being away from him. All I want is a hug

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