HELP! IT WONT GO IN
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HELP! IT WONT GO IN
| Tue, 05-04-2004 - 3:15pm |
hi
any help would be appreciated!
I am an 18 year old virgin and decided with my boyfriend (of 2 years) to have sex. I had heard that sex for the first time hurts, so we went and bought some KY jelly to reduce the amount of friction and discomfort. However, even with the KY jelly, my boyfriend could not physically enter me! He does not have an unusually large penis. He was very gentle and was trying his best (he is experienced). But, we could just not achieve penetration. It hurt me, but that wasn't the problem - IT COULD NOT GO IN! We tried several positions (him on top, me sitting down on him, him from behind) but it still could not enter me. I think my opening is just too small. Please help me!
any help would be appreciated!
I am an 18 year old virgin and decided with my boyfriend (of 2 years) to have sex. I had heard that sex for the first time hurts, so we went and bought some KY jelly to reduce the amount of friction and discomfort. However, even with the KY jelly, my boyfriend could not physically enter me! He does not have an unusually large penis. He was very gentle and was trying his best (he is experienced). But, we could just not achieve penetration. It hurt me, but that wasn't the problem - IT COULD NOT GO IN! We tried several positions (him on top, me sitting down on him, him from behind) but it still could not enter me. I think my opening is just too small. Please help me!

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I very much doubt your opening is too small.
A lot.
Seriously. Try missionary for the first time too, it offers the most convenient angles for a first timer (at least that is what I found). Help him in a little, aim wise... you know your body better than anyone else. :-) You'll be fine, it may just take a little time. My first time, it took me breathing a bit and getting past the pain to relax. Then the pain (though still there) was not as noticeable. :-)
Good luck.
HAHA!
Sister, sex the first time doesn't hurt unless you're a SUPER virgin (I.e. never been fingered) or you're humpin' John Holmes.
Relax. OH, the KY might make his wank VERY slippery and if he's not very big it could slip out, make sex difficult. You ARE WEARING A CONDOM, AREN'T YOU YOUNG LADY??
Have fun, wear a condom, keep us informed..
Chica
You need foreplay to get properly aroused. Proper arousal means your vaginal muscles relax, and you produce lubrication. Without it, your vaginal muscles are tight, and you can't get ANYTHING in, even with a whole tube of lubrication.
He needs to take LOTS of time, and not only stimulate your clitoris, but stretch you with his fingers.....first one, then two, then three, etc. When you're completely relaxed, then he'll fit, and not until. If he can't get his fingers in, then you're too tense, and it won't work. Your vagina can stretch big enough for a 9 pound baby to come thru it, so I'm sure his penis WILL fit, if you go about it right!
It goes without saying, for prevention of pregnancy, and for prevention of diseases, (since he's been with other women), you ARE using a condom, right? And you're using it from the MOMENT he's erect, right? Otherwise, even with what you did so far, you CAN get pregnant, and/or diseases. It's called pre ejaculate, and it contains sperm and disease, if he has anything (and you can't tell by looking, and men can have many diseases with NO symptoms!)
Intercourse
I was not a SUPER virgin when I lost it (had been fingered, etc) and it did hurt for me!!!!! Also was bleeding for a couple days after that!!
Now one could argue that my first boyfriend was larger than average.... but still... I knew no matter who it'd be it was going to be at least a little uncomfortable, even though I was no inexperienced.
Whatever though, the pain wasn't in the front of my mind... :-)
im away at college, so i only see my boyfriend on the weekends. and this friday is our anniversary, so we're going to try it again! i will definately make sure he gets me "revved up" before hand. and you guys helped me to relax - because i feel like this occurance is more normal. thank you again! and i will DEFINATELY inform you of the outcome. more tips & tricks are still appreciated if you have them to give.
Very off topic, I know! :-)
Climbinggirl
In any case, I TRY to give good advice, based on MANY years of experience. I was young once, and just as ignorant of my body as many of the posters, but I learned what to do and how to do it, and I try to share my experience.
Some people don't understand that it's advice, nothing more, and they're free to accept it or ignore it....and I'll never understand some of the posters that ask for advice, and shoot down every bit of it that's offered, not only from me, but everyone. I've just decided that they don't want advice, they want everyone to agree with them, and/or sympathize with them. I don't do that! A CL has to be more "even handed"!
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