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| Thu, 06-09-2005 - 11:17pm |
My boyfriend and I finally decided it was time to have sex. We just cant make it work! We like, cant even get him inside of me. Its so weird. Help!
| Thu, 06-09-2005 - 11:17pm |
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We probably need answers to a few questions before we can suggest anything specific.
Can he get a nice hard erection?
Are you aroused and lubricated and relaxed?
Are you doing it in private or trying to hurriedly do it without much privacy?
Give us a bit of background.
If the problem is he is not hard enough, then try more foreplay on him with oral and manual stimulation.
If he isn't hard enough to get in you, then he isn;t hard enough to be keeping the condom on....obvioulsy DO NOT EVEN CONSIDER having sex without a condom on, and secondly, let him use his fingers to loosen you up a bit.
By the way, make sure you use a WATER BASED lubricant on the condom as others can deteriorate the condom itself. And, you only need a drop or two.
also, make sure you know how to put the condom on and take it out/off. if he touches the worng side of the condom to the tip of penis and then turns it around...guess what, he just planted sperm right up in you.
Make sure he holds the ring of the condom when pulling out of you as it might slip off and spill some into you.
Never reuse a condom and make sure it stays on! ALWAYS.
And remember, CONDOMS DO BREAK. if he notices it all of a sudden feels wetter or different, get him out of you ASAP - watch your calendar as well.
MOST IMPORTANTLY - you say you are 18 and in love. Before you have sex with him ask yourself these questions:
1) If I get pregnant, will he be able to financially take care of me and the baby for the next 18 yrs.
2) if I get pregnant, will he be involved in mine and the baby's life for the rest of our lives.
3) Is the percieved pleasure worth that much of a risk?
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