Help Me

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Registered: 02-21-2005
Help Me
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Wed, 05-04-2005 - 12:33am

I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year already and we started having oral sex only... we have never have had intercource(I am an intercouse virgin and I am 22 years old) This is the first guy I do this with. But every time that he does it to me I almost dont feel anything, altough sometimes I do. However I have never reached an O. And I feel frustated because I want to feel more. I told him about this and I know he has tried to do something about it and it doesn't work. I feel that if we have intercource this might change, but I know I'm not completely in love with him altough I care alot for him and I want to do it, adding to that reason are many more.

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Registered: 05-27-2004
In reply to: kiky2005
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 12:48am

Do you know how to have an orgasm? Have you ever given yourself an orgasm from masturbation? You have to learn how to have orgasms, your b/f can't make you have one. He can help if he's doing the right things, but is he doing the right things?

Women have orgasms from stimulation of their clitoris. Most women do NOT have orgasms from intercourse, so don't have intercourse with someone you don't love, because that will not give you an orgasm, either.

When he give you oral sex, does he stimulate the clitoris enough? That is what will feel good to you.

Go to this web site, and learn about your body, and how to have orgasms. This will help you. www.the-clitoris.com

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: kiky2005
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 12:53am

My question is IF you aren't in love with this guy, then why get more intimately involved?

It's not likely that intercourse would be more enjoyable since for most women, we need the emotional connection and the trust that comes from that, for sex to be truly pleasurable. And anyway, more women are able to orgasm with oral stimulation than from intercourse with no clitoral stimulation.

Do you self stimulate? Are you able to bring yourself to orgasm? IF not, then I would suggest exploring your body and figuring out what turns you on. Once you find that out, then show your partner. You might visit www.the-clitoris.com for some helpful info.

IF your guy isn't stimulating your clitoris during oral, then it's no wonder that you feel very little. However, this could also be a mental block because you don't feel as close to him as you should. Remember, we aren't programmed to orgasm, it's something that we learn from experience and practice.

Don't just determine to lose your virginity just to be rid of it though...you can't ever get it back and it should be a gift to someone you love!