HELP - Sad about lack of sex and passion
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| Tue, 02-01-2005 - 6:23pm |
Hi,
I am a 38 and have been in a relationship for 12years. We used to have a sensational sex life though over the past few years it has become very average. I have spoken to my partner about this and he just clams up. THE problem now has become NO sex. It has been over 12months since he has touched me, I have tried to initiate sex and been knocked back many times. I told my partner I was not going to initiate anymore as continually knocking me back hurts and that his lack of interest and desire is making me feel ugly and un loveable. Like many men he can not communicate in words his feelings (he has always been like this) He says he is not having an affair and he dosn't know why he has no sexual desire.( I believe him and know he loves me) I am now so hurt, angry and sad that our intimacy has died that I am now living with a defence barrier up and we can not even have a laugh. The really bad thing about this is the tension in the house, we are not fighting but are just going through the motions of living together wich I do not think is a great envireoment for our beautiful 6 month old daughter.
Does anyone have any idea what may be going on or what I should do. I really am geting very depressed over the whole situation.
Thanks and regards
Lisa

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Well, Lisa is not overly emotional in her posts to us, but to me it's clear that she is responding emotionally to him. She is "hurt, angry and sad", he rejects her advances and she "puts up her defenses".
Kat, Faith is a very powerful thing.
Good Luck, Lisa
John
P.S. I had a problem that I kept secret from my DW for the past month. I tried to work it out alone, because I was embarrassed. I finally told her last night, only because I HAD to. There was no rational reason not to tell her a month ago. It shouldn't have even mattered.
We men are strange creatures.
Edited 2/2/2005 5:44 pm ET ET by mejohnz
I certainly agree with you. It seems to me that the "emotion" arguement devolves into semantics at the end of the day.
John
P.S. My faith is not in any one man, or person; but in humanity.
Katmandoo2001 Wrote:
<< "It's clear that she's responding emotionally to him." As well she should. This is an emotional situation. I don't believe that any human being can extract emotion out of a situation like THIS, by will. We can think on it logically and with common sense, but umemotionally, no way. >>
I wish I had my camera handy the other day. While driving I saw a car with aout 20 fish stuck to the back. the fish said everything from "God", "Faith", "Karma", "Darwin", you name it. For me, it was a powerful message.
John
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