HELP - Sad about lack of sex and passion

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Registered: 11-21-2004
HELP - Sad about lack of sex and passion
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Tue, 02-01-2005 - 6:23pm

Hi,

I am a 38 and have been in a relationship for 12years. We used to have a sensational sex life though over the past few years it has become very average. I have spoken to my partner about this and he just clams up. THE problem now has become NO sex. It has been over 12months since he has touched me, I have tried to initiate sex and been knocked back many times. I told my partner I was not going to initiate anymore as continually knocking me back hurts and that his lack of interest and desire is making me feel ugly and un loveable. Like many men he can not communicate in words his feelings (he has always been like this) He says he is not having an affair and he dosn't know why he has no sexual desire.( I believe him and know he loves me) I am now so hurt, angry and sad that our intimacy has died that I am now living with a defence barrier up and we can not even have a laugh. The really bad thing about this is the tension in the house, we are not fighting but are just going through the motions of living together wich I do not think is a great envireoment for our beautiful 6 month old daughter.

Does anyone have any idea what may be going on or what I should do. I really am geting very depressed over the whole situation.

Thanks and regards

Lisa

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Registered: 11-15-2003
Wed, 02-02-2005 - 6:44pm

There would also be no intrigue or fear if there were no perception of the bear :0).

Scott.

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Registered: 11-26-2004
Wed, 02-02-2005 - 6:55pm
...think Smokey(the friendly bear). ;-)
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )

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