Help! Two Guys Want Me....How To Deal?
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| Tue, 01-31-2006 - 6:25pm |
OKay I am not sure where to post this at so if you read it elsewhere its cause I wasn't sure where it belongs!
Problem: I have two guys after me right now and they both want to have be with me and have sex!
Guy #1: My recent ex-boyfriend. I broke up with him because after over a year he still didn't have a reliable job, still lives with him parents, still doesn't have his own car, and has to take meds that reduce his sex drive and so he wasn't interested in having sex for the last 6 months of our relationship. Now the good things about this guy is that he treats me like a queen, spoils me and deeply cares and loves me and he is a really good guy, thoughtful, does the little things, anticpates my needs, etc. Not the type of guy you get rid of lightly. My feelings about him are that I love him....I just don't feel IN love with him and there really was no passion or lust in our relationship (though he assures me he lusts for me but the meds just "turn off" his sex drive or desire) we were like an old married couple set in our routine...boring. This might be because of the reasons I broke up with him and I haven't allowed myself to totally, madly fall in love cause I didn't see a potential there. The situation stands at this: I broke up with him about 3 weeks ago but since he didn't want to break up and I felt that I needed to do something dramatic to give him a wake up call (take a stand) about improving his situation or I'm out of here I agreed to still "date" him but that I am going to see other people (mainly because of lack of sex). But now it appears that Guy #1 has altered his meds and is now wanting to have sex again and of course he wants to get back together with me but I'm not allowing that not until he at least gets a job at the bare minimum. But we are still "dating" and sex is allowed until then or until I don't want to see him anymore at all.
Guy #2: The new guy I've met and started dating (and we've been having sex on each date). I like him but of course he is basically a stranger but the sex is excellent/great/steller extremely enjoyable to me. He says he is looking at long term potential as a possiblity and wants to see me at least once a week.
Okay to those people out there that are thinking to flame me I'll tell you right now that I'm careful...always safe sex. I'm not a tramp or slut either just a mostly neglected woman who now finds herself at a buffet of delights.
So I'm not really sure how to handle all the guy attentin/lust directed at me right now. And how to juggle seeing them cause they both want weekends with me due to being out of town (Guy #1) and work schedules during the week (Guy #2)! Its not the usual case for me and I've never had more then one guy interested in me that I was *also* interested in as well. How to deal with this? How to handle it?! As a shy wallflower type I'm totally over my head in this and would like some advice. I want to soak up all the attention and opportunities that I can get...being self-fish right now I guess. I never had a wild and crazy period but this may be it! Anyone Out there know what I'm talking about???

First, let's set the record straight on one comment of yours.