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| Wed, 10-04-2006 - 10:54am |
i just recently got engaged, a little over a month ago. we have lived together for about 16 months now. for the past 2 weeks i have been having dreams of having sex with other people. people that i know. i wake up in the morning and have no idea why i am having these dreams. does anyone know why im dreaming like this? is it a bad thing, should i feel absolutley horrible about myself? please help me!!

You have absolutely NO control over your dreams. They are a product of your subconscience. Sometimes dreams like that are happening because you're not sure of the relationship, down deep you're having doubts. Sometimes they're from stress, at home, at work, or anywhere. Dreams like that aren't unusual, even for women in good relationships. I've even heard of women waking up from a dream like that in the middle of an orgasm.
ARE you having doubts about the relationship? After living together for 16 months, are you wondering when if ever you'll get married, or wondering if HE has doubts? Sometimes we need to listen to our doubts and fears.
In any case, there is no reason for you to feel like a horrible person. All you can do is try to think of some reason why it's happening.
As Dakine said, we can't control our dreams and no, you should not feel horrible about it.
Hon, I don't know anyone who hasn't had those kinds of dreams. And since dreams aren't always straight forward in their meaning, you can't really interpret them literally.
So, you may be having sex with someone you know in the dream but the act, person, setting, etc. could actually mean something else in your subconsciousness.
Edited 10/8/2006 11:33 pm ET by gigi_1000
Hi Sara
have you thought perhaps you are not ready to commit to your fiancee fully. the dreams suggest that perhaps on some level your having doubts or perhaps your feeling anxious about beng engaged. perhaps talk your feelings over with a friend someone you can trust and confide in.
hope that helps sara
shaun
You are going to know more about your dreams and what they mean to you than any of us.
Its a good thing you are dreaming it means you are getting some deep sleep and that is good.
Sometimes your dreams are an outlet for things you are afraid to let yourself say or think when you a awake.
My guess is most people have similar dreams.
If you are having sex in your dream and it is so good that you fall out of the bed that might be a problem if you are on the top of a bunk bed. LOL
Yelling out someone else's name while cumming and sleeping next to someone else might create a problem. LOL ....otherwise I don't think you have a problem,
However, they are your dreams and you will know what what they mean.
Good luck
P.S. Sleep close to the floor just in case!!!!