Herbal Remedies
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| Mon, 07-18-2005 - 8:24pm |
I have problems w/ performance anxiety. Before I became sexually active, I thought of myself as pretty confident. When I first started having sex I had trouble reaching orgasm and there were the natrual problems you come across when just starting out. Well, after the first time, I didnt finish and she didnt finish and we had to quit. After that we didnt try again for 2-3 weeks, even though I wanted to try again the next morning. Anyhow, I later found out that she just has LL, even though she had previous sexual relationships, and she never experienced LL before. So naturally, I figured it was me and my poor peformance. I felt she didnt want it because I wasnt good, and I didnt really have enough opportunity to get comfortable sexually. Over time, matters just got worse. Eventually, I got over some issues and sex is okay now but the damage is done. I dont feel very confident in bed and I have trouble sustaining erections.
I am 25, fit, and have no medical issues (including low testosterone). Doctors will not prescribe anything. So now I am trying to build more confidence while dealing w/ soft erections and a partner that doesnt seem to desire sex much or achieve orgasm when we do have it. I had to eliminate the soft erections if I was to improve my situation at all.
Anyhow, after lots of research i decided to try out herbal solutions. I know lots of men have similar problems w/ confidence and poor erectile quality or desire, and dont really do much about it. Herbal pills really seemed to help me alot so I wanted to just let people know because when I was looking into I didnt find anyone talking about them.
Now, I will say this. Maybe for me it was all mental. Maybe I think the results are alot better than they are becuase I want them to be. Maybe it is my diet or maybe it is the weather. I dont know and I dont care. To be honest, I just hope the results last and werent just a fluke. I have been taking herbal pills for 3 weeks and my girlfriend noticed a difference and so did I. I know I know. Taking pills for confidence or to increase sexual vitality is pretty embarrassing and silly sounding, but hey, I really needed to try something different. I didnt have sex often and when I did, I was always worrying wether or not my erection would soften up after 10 minutes.
I am posting this because I think that this can really help me begin to regain my confidence. I find that they really do increase libido, confidence and erection strength. How do they improve confidence? Well, when you go from possibly getting a decent erection to filling it practically throb from being so firm, your ego does the rest.
Anyhow, I hope this at least convinces some men in the same boat I am to try them out. My brother recently said he was having problems and I really want to give them to him so he can try them out, but I just feel a little too embarrassed to do that now.
And as for women, if you dont think your men have high enough libidos or have erectile problems on occassion, you should possibly consider the options. Who knows, it might help out.

I'm glad whatever it is, whether you just gained your confidence and self-esteem back or if the pills did the trick has worked for you.
Hey tish,
you are very right. They can be very dangerous. I did consult briefly w/ my doctor, and I did look at the ingredients to check to see if they are safe. It is true that they are not evaluated by the FDA or by anyone else for that matter. Also, where you get them is important. Some herbal companies have harmful traces of bad stuff because of poor lab conditions, and others have a great ingredient list but dont manufacture them properly and thus yielding their supplements useless. Most dietary supplements such as the one I am taking do have lots of ingredients that have no known toxicity although the one I am taking has been known to cause some problems if taken w/ other medications or if the people are diabetic, taking blood pressure meds, or taking nitrates. So far I have only heard that they are in large part safe. Not all herbal supplements work for everyone but anyone considering them should look into to make sure it i the right choice.
Most crappy male enhancement sites start by saying girls want 8 inch penises and why settle for average and blah blah blah. Most of them even say that because they are herbal they are 100% safe. The good products say that there are no known toxicity levels and that taken in small dosages should be completely safe although not evaluated by the FDA. There are a lot of scams out there and potentially dangerous products, especially if taken for 5 months like the pill companies want.
For me it did work, and I am happy (for now), because there does seem to be light at the end of the tunnel. You are definitely right in that people MUST do their homework.
I just figured that no one considers it an option because a) It doesnt seem like it should work and b) it is commonly associated w/ spam.
I will consider telling my brother about the results I was able to get and different options he may have.
Thanks,
I'm glad that it's helped with the confidence and everything, but I'm not a big fan of taking anything that you don't need. Especially herbal remedies. You just don't know what they are doing exactly. I also happen to think that most of them are a load of old snakeoil. Concocted using recognised theraputic herbs to provide some validity to the claims, and then used to part a person from his money for something that probably doesn't work.
Will you be taking these for the rest of your life or can you wean yourself off them?
I agree w/ you. I dont take any pills. Not for headaches, not for depression, not for anything. The last time I took a pill to correct something was when I almost ripped my shoulder apart and I was on codene for the pain. I took the pills because after 3 years of soft erections I really didnt know what to do. I was very annoyed, frustrated, and enough was enough, so I gave it a try, and to my surprise, it seemed to work!
I am not going to take them forever. I am going to take them for 3 months, and then after that take a pill a week. A pill a week is far cheaper in time, money, and hassle, than condoms, so it isnt too big a deal.
As for needing the pills, I do need them, and I dont consider them confidence pills. There is no such thing as a pill that gives you confidence. But everytime I have sex, my erection goes flaccid after 10 minutes. That greatly affects my confidence. By giving myself an edge phsyically, I can regain my mental edge of confidence. I think in my case, a solution was very much needed. If I could excercise or will my penis to stay rock hard, I would.
I can see how you would be reluctant to try it, but seeing as how it also enhances libido, it seems like a good thing to possibly try in a CL situation where the male is LL. Of course, most LL's would not agree to try the herbal solutions, but if they were willing, they may find that they can crawl out of the CL situation w/ a little help from mother nature. When one considers how only 30 days and 30 bucks "could" make a difference, it seems worth a try.
I was reluctant at first, but being that I am HL, I dont like having ANYTHING hinder my limited sexual experience, so I went against what I normally do.
As Tish mentioned, your GP should be aware that you're taking these herbal supplements because they can have side effects that may not be apparent. And they're mostly unregulated. They're still medications, just natural ones.
And I have to disagree with your comment about there being a pill for confidence. If you believe a pill will boost your confidence, you've been told it will by someone you trust, then it will. Research has shown that to be true.
It would be an interesting experiment for you partner to exchange your supplements for sugar pills and see if you have the same effect.
Edited 7/19/2005 12:09 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001