He's wonderful.......except

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He's wonderful.......except
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Sun, 12-23-2007 - 10:42am
with my soon to be ex.I'm a professional educated woman with
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Sun, 12-23-2007 - 10:51am

Welcome to the board, fas1999.

I think people will treat you the way that you allow them to treat you. If you are unsure about his motives and behavior, then stay true to yourself, your beliefs, and how you want to be treated. Perhaps he doesn't "get" it. Maybe you need to be more direct in your approach of letting him know what you expect or how you want to be treated.

If he can't dance to your tune, then he's probably not the right guy for you.





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Mon, 12-24-2007 - 9:50am

Hi and welcome fas1999. Will you please fill in your profile so we can know something about you? Thanks a lot.


If your gut instincts tell you to get away from him, then get away from him. Intuition, I find, is always right.



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Registered: 11-25-2007
Wed, 12-26-2007 - 4:21am

Hi


I am puzzled. You say you are educated, proffesional, and live by your values and morals.

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Wed, 12-26-2007 - 7:25am

Thanks to all of you for your responses and i see why many of you said what you said and why some of you are puzzled. Needless to say all of you are correct and I agree with all of you. Yes, we had sex once, and it was the one time I allowed him to come to my home. The calendar of events are as follows:


We met on Dec 1.


Dec 4 is when I allowed him to visit and we had sex.


Since then, the following weekend, the 8th, I told him I didn't like the way this relationship is going. I could see a pattern forming after one time of having sex. In phone conversations, it was obvious the next time we met he wanted to do the same thing, he wanted to come back to my house, no talk of a date. So I told him look, this is not the type of relationship I'm looking for, you're not making an effort to get to know me, I don't think we should continue this relationship. He says hes confused and that we really haven't had much time together.....


So Monday, dec 10, I say to myself, well maybe we really haven't had much time, I'll give him time to prove himself and see if this has any potential of moving forward and getting better. So we talked


Now, The only time we can see each other is on weekends because I have my daughter during the week, and he has his son during the week.


So the weekend of the 15th rolls around. We didn't see each other, because my daughter was with me and we did decorations for the holiday.


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Wed, 12-26-2007 - 10:43am
Welcome to the board, red_rascal, and thanks for joining in.