Hiding testicles?
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Hiding testicles?
| Wed, 06-29-2005 - 1:55am |
The new guy that I am with, well, it's almost as if he doesn't have any balls. It's just a leathery patch of skin, I guess. It's rasied up a little and he's fully functional, but it's not like anything I've ever seen before. Additionally, he isn't very big penis wise. This doesn't bother me at all, I'm just curious because I've never seen anything like it in person or in pictures. I was just wondering if this is normal and if anyone else has ever run into the same thing.
Thanks!

Would you expect that this bf has ever been examined by a doctor? It sounds like he may have two undescended testicles (read about it here http://my.webmd.com/hw/raising_a_family/rt1113.asp) or possibly even undeveloped testicles. Either would explain his "empty" scrotum and his lack of endowment - the testes produce testosterone, the male hormone responsible for so much of what goes on during and after puberty.
You should understand that he may very well be sterile; if children are important to your concept of marriage, you will want to investigate this matter sooner rather than later.
Ask him about the doctor thing and, if he hasn't been, ask him to consider seeing a urologist as soon as possible.
There's no such thing as "normal" when it comes to the human body. Every person is different. As Tish said, it could be undescended testicles, or it could just be that he's made differently. Also, as she said.....he might be "functional" but that doesn't mean he's producing sperm. Those are two different things.
There's really nothing you can do to find out if he's been checked by a doctor besides asking. Although most parents take their children to pediatricians regularly, not ALL do. If he's got a problem, a pediatrician would have found it, and he would know about it. More than likely, there would have been an operation to correct the problem, IF there is one. But, if he's never been seen by a pediatrician, or an Urologist since he's an adult, he might not know himself, either.
I wouldn't worry about it, unless you're planning to get married and have a family. For now, all you need is the "function", and you've got that. If and when you decide to take the next step, then it's something you have to talk to him about.
PS: There is also a "natural" reaction to fear in some men.....their testicles literally retract into their body, to protect them. Maybe he's that nervous around you, and it'll be different when he gets more comfortable with you.
Well, he has a child, that's definitely his, so everything is alright as far as that is concerned. Now that I think about it, that nervous thing kinda makes sense. We've only been naked together once and we didn't actually have sex. We've been friends for a long time and I remember once he was wearing wet swim trunks that were "clinging" and everything looked fine then. Hmmm...
Do you know where I could find more information about this, or perhaps just ways to help him relax?
I agree with the mindset of the replies so far. The appearance is certainly not normal as what we're all likely use to, but as you've pointed out, he IS fully functional anyway. YES, his description actually is not that rare, believe it or not, nothing to worry about.
One thing that would help with his sensitivity to this is for you to just not think about it at all. Unless he raised issue about it, don't overthink about it and treat it as normal, I'd say.
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Are you sure the child is his as in he produced the child, or is it possible that the child is his and he used to be a "she"? Is this possible?