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his he still attracted to me?
| Thu, 04-07-2005 - 8:52am |
How does a woman determine if a man is NO LONGER attracted to her? Been together for 20 years. I am getting the feeling that other things are fueling his sexual drive. Does anyone have any comments whether they are guesses or know facts what the signs are?

You must have some idea what these "other things" are so, what's your guess? Porn? Flirting with other women? I think your best bet for some answers is to have a talk with your guy and share your thoughts.
There is no sure fire way that I know of to determine his source of arousal other than catching him in the act with erection in hand. And even then, you don't REALLY know what his motive is or why he's doing what he's doing.
Just don't assume anything. He could be experiencing some libido or erectile problems, health concerns, so many other things causing stress, that he's not telling you about.
He could just be trying to "jumpstart" your sex life, who knows?
But talk with him and find out what's going on!
Edited 4/7/2005 11:05 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
Your post is very vague, so I guess you think that we can guess what your problem is, just as you think you can guess what his problem is.
I'll "guess" that there's some porn involved, and you don't like it. You said his sex drive is "fueled", so I'm guessing that there IS sex....but you feel that he's getting his arousal from something other than being with you.
Playing guessing games very rarely comes up with correct answers. If you want the answers, then go to the source, and talk to him about it.
Maybe after 20 years, he need some inspiration from outside sources. That's not necessarily a bad thing, as long as he's looking for inspiration somewhere. Maybe you need to provide a little more inspiration for him, but again, only he can tell you what's going on. Communication is the key.