Is His Size Bothering Him?

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Registered: 04-26-2004
Is His Size Bothering Him?
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Wed, 12-29-2004 - 12:47pm
I know I can answer my own question because yes, it is obvious his size bothers him. But there's more to it and as a woman, I can't figure it out. He's a fairly young guy, 33, so it can't be related to being too old and losing libido. He's the kind of guy that talks about sex more than actually doing it. There have been many times where I've wanted to and it was obvious he wasn't interested. And when we do, the only thing he wants from me is intercourse. He won't let me touch him (I've tried twice and he pushes my hand away). He rarely let's me do oral, maybe 4 times since I've been with him almost 1 year and it wasn't easy to get him to finish. He has brought up Viagara a couple times thinking it would help him not get an erection, but keep it so he could last hours. I also think he purchased some kind of enlarger tool (but he hasn't said anything to me about it). He refuses to watch porn because he says he doesn't like to see other men's penises. He is the first guy I've met that doesn't watch porn. So you can imagine our sex is pretty limited. He does please me in other ways, but it just makes me wonder what's going on. When we first dated he would get upset because I couldn't orgasm during intercourse (which I never really could anyway). He would then blame himself and ask me if it was because of his size. It's not really that, but it just doesn't seem like his erection is that, well, hard. The last time we had intercourse I think he pulled out because he had lost his erection. Maybe he just has issues with himself. Any thoughts?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 12-30-2004 - 7:51pm
Dream,there is no doubt that this guy has some serious sexual problems. You have been with him for a year now and don't seem to have made much progress in clearing up any of his emotional or psychological problems. At some point, you will have to ask yourself how long you are willing to spend with this guy in order to ,hopefully, see some progress.
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Registered: 12-20-2004
Fri, 12-31-2004 - 10:26am
Could be a lot of things, but it is definitely mental...He could be selfish, or he could be a lousy lover because hes never learned.(thats his own fault)..It could be he is just THAT hung up on his size...How small is it?

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