Hmm...how intimate are you expected to b

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Registered: 06-10-2003
Hmm...how intimate are you expected to b
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Tue, 11-30-2004 - 6:33pm

I know it depends on the relationship, but again, if we are both just ending relationships, and we need (in my opinion) to get to know each other a little bit before we get too intimate (ie oral sex and the like), I suppose he shouldn't push me into that stuff too fast either?

I feel bad for backing up on him, but really we only dated for a couple of weeks and our other people haven't left the country as they will soon, and I decided its been going too fast.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Tue, 11-30-2004 - 7:28pm
You become intimate when YOU want to become intimate.

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Registered: 07-22-2004
Tue, 11-30-2004 - 7:43pm
Some relationships are about the 'needs for now' whereas others are about 'the long run' whereas others are about this or that and so on. Sigh, lol, so you two need to decide what you want out of the relationship first before deciding you get intimate in the first place. Just my opinion, from a married guy anyway. ;)

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Wed, 12-01-2004 - 12:48am

What in the world do past relationships, whether they were last week, or last year, have to do with NOW? And, as long as they aren't in the room with you, who cares what country they're in at the moment?

You are not "expected" to do anything you don't want to do. Some women wait for marriage! If this guy won't take no for an answer, then I'd wonder if he or both of you are ready for a new relationship, or are just in the "rebound" stage of your breakups. After a breakup, it takes some time to get adjusted to that, even if you were the one who wanted to end it. If you don't take that time....you'll jump into bed with the first person who agrees......just to prove to yourself that you've still "got it".

If a guy won't wait, that's a pretty sure indication that he's looking more for sex, than a long term relationship. If you lose him over this, he's not much of a loss!