Hmmm. Is My Friend *Interested* In Me?

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Registered: 08-29-2003
Hmmm. Is My Friend *Interested* In Me?
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Sun, 11-07-2004 - 8:36pm
Hey all long time no hear from . . . . .

I have a question about one of my female buddies. We've been friends for about 6 months now. We talk/email regularly and we dine out about once a week or so. In fact, we always trade *war stories* about the guys we are or were dating and bash our Exes. We also talk about sex but within the confines of describing our sexual frustration and wanting sex (i.e. saying that we are horny (I hope I can say that) and stuff - LOL) . . . .

Anyway, about 2 months ago, she and I had a long telephone conversation about work, careers, and men. At that time, she told me about some Ex of hers who took her to a swingers club here in New York City. After the club, the boyfriend persuaded my friend to have group sex with him and a few other women. My friend said that she actually enjoyed being with the female and said that she actually likes having sex with females and that she is bi-sexual. Well I'm not a homophobe or anything so I told her that I saw nothing wrong with her sexual preferences. *To each is her own* is my motto! I also told her that I have never had sex with a female although one of my Exes tried to persuade me to have a 3-some with him and another woman on the condition that I find the female.

At that point, my friend immediately said, in so many words, that she would be willing to have the 3 some with us!!! I honestly didn't know how to respond as I was not seeking another female by making this statement to her. Besides, I'm no longer with that guy. I was simply trying to share my experiences with her and tell her about guy who tried to get me to have sex with him and another woman.

Even since that conversation, my friend talks about having sex with females more often. She also calls me *hon* when before it was *girl* or my real name. Also, I've been dieting for the past 3 months now and I have lost a considerable amount of weight. Well, two weeks ago, my friend told me that I am sliming down and as she said this, my friend looked at my legs and thighs in a lustful way. I've never seen her look like that before. And even as late as last Friday, my friend gave me a compliment and said that I have a nice azz.

Is She *Interested* in Me or is she just being nice and feels more comfortable talking this way around me???

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Sun, 11-07-2004 - 9:21pm
Being a guy I can't usually tell if a woman is hitting on me, let alone being able to spot another woman hitting on a woman! :-)

However, it sounds as if you offered she'd waste no time taking you up on it. I suppose if you have 'the vibes' then she probably is.

If you are good friends, I'd either ignore it if you're not too worried about it or I'd simply say something to her at an appropriate time. I'd phrase it something like "You know how we had that conversation a while ago about the threesome that that old b/f wanted me to have? I was thinking about it the other day, and it occurred to me that I might have given you the wrong impression. I wasn't asking you if you wanted to try girl on girl sex with me. I'm not interested in trying it so I hope that I didn't embarrass you when I said that. I like being friends and just wanted to clear that up in case you thought that I had been hitting on you".

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Registered: 08-29-2003
Sun, 11-07-2004 - 10:29pm
Ok thanks westridge!