Hmmmm. Anal. A first?

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Hmmmm. Anal. A first?
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Sat, 08-21-2004 - 11:23am
Just totally outta curiosity, you see so many posts here about anal. Is it really common or something? I ask because I've never done it, my two closest gfs -- one of whom is basically a lil' love machine -- have never done it, and my bf, who i believe has had a ton of sex in his life,* has never done it. In each case, the answer was pretty much, "well, never really wanted to, I guess I'd speak up if it suddenly struck my fancy." Bf said it wouldn't bother him to do me that way if for some reason I wanted it, but he was hilarious when he noted that he was quite clueless as to all the procedural subtleties. I think maybe I will take him up on it some day, just so that we have a "first" together.




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* doing the math in my head, he's been sexually active for 24 years, and said maybe he has averaged a couple-three times a week. That's like 2400-3600 times! That's gotta be a bathtub-full of semen or something! Lol! By contrast, I am going to roughly estimate that maybe I've had maybe a couple/few hundred makeout sessions.

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Registered: 07-30-2004
Sat, 08-21-2004 - 11:54am
I have always been interested in anal sex. I don't know why, I just think its erotic. I've even done it a few times. I guess its not for everyone though. I think about 20% of heterosexual women have done it, at least that is the commonly quoted statistic. A couple of my friends (guys) and I were talking about it one day while driving around one day. They were laughing about how gross it was and I said - don't be so judgemental. As you might imagine, I have yet to live that one down. lol. The lowest point of the whole debacle was a few days later another friend (sweet inocent Catholic girl) made some sort of 'don't be so judegemental' remark. Then she laughed. At me. She still has a crush on me though (she told me so) and I guess that means she doesn't think I'm a total dirty sinner. No, actually, the the lowest point was when the girl I have liked for years made the same sort of remark, which was much enjoyed by her girly-girl roomates. I blush very easily. It was such a bad scene. All this happened two years ago. The other day my roomate teased me again. Sigh.


phat

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Sat, 08-21-2004 - 12:06pm
I have no idea how common it is, but my husband and I enjoy it on a fairly regular basis.

Leticia

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Sat, 08-21-2004 - 12:07pm
"Don't be so judgmental" is such good advice for anyone, always, I think (especially coupled with a sly wink)! I think I am going to try asking for anal sometime ... sometimes I get in these really raunchy/affectionate moods and I know I am a delightful surprise for him and I really will look straight at him and invite him to do me that way. Heaven knows what'll happen next ... I really have almost no idea of what to expect.


Edited 8/22/2004 11:00 am ET ET by christy_la1
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Registered: 11-15-2003
Sat, 08-21-2004 - 2:28pm
Dear Christy,

When you come to a website like this, you are more likely to run across people that have tried and enjoyed anal sex and many other things, basically because people that are here have a higher interest in sex (if they didn't, they wouldn't be here). In other words, this website would not be a really representitive slice of average America (or any society). If you took a survey here on how many people have had and enjoy anal sex, the statics would be higher than say if you surveyed your church or neighborhood.

However, anal sex has been around as long as humans have. There are a certain percentage of the population that will enjoy it and others that don't. The stigma surrounding it however, may keep many from discussing it with you or other friends. My wife and I enjoy anal sex occassionally, but it's not something that we discuss with our friends...in fact we don't discuss our bedroom activities with anyone (outside of an anonymous forum like this). So you just never know.

If you want to try it, try it...if you both enjoy it make it part of you life, if either or both of you don't like it, then don't indulge (anal sex is a little like coffee, most people have to try it a few times before they enjoy it).

Peace.

Scott.

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Sat, 08-21-2004 - 7:17pm
I'm sorry. Especially to you, you sound very cool. But, that's what I call it!!! But sure, no sweat, I'll change my ways. ;-)
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Sun, 08-22-2004 - 12:13am
I am conflicted on this point. I sympathize with those who are uncomfortable with Christy's language. I am too sometimes, but mostly because I am wincing at how other people are probably judging her. However, this is a sex board after all, and someone new to the board might just assume that attitudes about which synonyms are right and which ones are wrong would be a little more flexible. I would expect this especially in someone fresh from a liberal university where everything is rigidly flexible and forcefully loose and pushing the envelope of expression is considered healthy and par for the course. Still, it must be recognized that kids might see this board, and you know how kids are, they might get the wrong idea. What wrong idea? Well, maybe the c-word is out of fashion among kids these days and they might pick it up from this board and get teased for being square. Who knows? Maybe they use the wrong word for penis on a bio exam, and get a bad grade. We have to protect our children from that sort of thing. ANyway, my facetiousness not withstanding, you don't have to wield dirty words like a kid swing at a piniata in order to prove that you're cosmopolitan and with it.

About the whole, "bump" thing: I didn't catch on to what it meant right away so perhaps Christy didn't either. Maybe Clue-in 101 isn't a required course in American ivy league schools these days. Maybe in between swapping emails with the in-crowd someone might have forwarded a few cautionary words to Miss Princeton. Slightly less fun than ganging up to take someone down a few pegs, I know, but it would have been nice.

-Phat

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Sun, 08-22-2004 - 3:37am
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Leticia

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Registered: 05-18-2004
Sun, 08-22-2004 - 3:58am
Phat, I don't see how she needs to use terms like she has chosen to make her point. She has been on this forum long enough to know the TOS here. I have posted to her directly about her overly explicit descriptions of her romps with her boyfriend, yet she persists. I doubt emailing her would have any effect. And as for the snide comment you made about emailing with the in-crowd, I can't speak for the people who emailed each other but any complaint made on this forum could potentially be seen as a personal attack, so it becomes necessary to take personal feelings and discussions off the forum or risk removal of your post. Enough of those, and you get banned. As it is I wouldn't be at all shocked to see Yasmin's post removed by Monday.

Leticia

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Registered: 04-19-2003
Sun, 08-22-2004 - 6:38am

Darling, it's not about the in-crowd sending emails - any member of this board could email me if they choose to do so.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sun, 08-22-2004 - 8:47am

Phat, it is in the TOS (terms of service) about masked language.


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