Hmmmm. Anal. A first?

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Hmmmm. Anal. A first?
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Sat, 08-21-2004 - 11:23am
Just totally outta curiosity, you see so many posts here about anal. Is it really common or something? I ask because I've never done it, my two closest gfs -- one of whom is basically a lil' love machine -- have never done it, and my bf, who i believe has had a ton of sex in his life,* has never done it. In each case, the answer was pretty much, "well, never really wanted to, I guess I'd speak up if it suddenly struck my fancy." Bf said it wouldn't bother him to do me that way if for some reason I wanted it, but he was hilarious when he noted that he was quite clueless as to all the procedural subtleties. I think maybe I will take him up on it some day, just so that we have a "first" together.




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* doing the math in my head, he's been sexually active for 24 years, and said maybe he has averaged a couple-three times a week. That's like 2400-3600 times! That's gotta be a bathtub-full of semen or something! Lol! By contrast, I am going to roughly estimate that maybe I've had maybe a couple/few hundred makeout sessions.

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Sun, 08-22-2004 - 9:55am
I think it is more common than than some may think, but as someone else had mentioned not something that may be widely discussed. My girl has a beautiful posterior and I was placed under it's spell from day one. So we to experienced a "first" since she had never done it prior to our first time.

She experiences the most intense O's from anal, it is such a turn on to be a part of this and knowing that you are bringing your partner such feelings and enjoyment.

Just follow all the advice when you do decide to try it so that your "first" is a good experience.

And watch your mouth you bad girl ;)

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Sun, 08-22-2004 - 11:10am
The last thing I would want to do is give you guys, (most of whom sound like people I'd love to have have over to dinner (we'd order out, b/c I'm a horrid cook!)) the least bit of offense. But i haven't received any emails from anyone, which must be getting routed to an old address. How do ya update it?

A/f/a anal, I still can't get my brain around the whole thing, but maybe someday if the stars are just right.

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Sun, 08-22-2004 - 11:35am

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Mon, 08-23-2004 - 1:51am
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Edited 8/23/2004 1:54 am ET ET by cityguy666
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Mon, 08-23-2004 - 2:01am
For what it's worth christy I think you sound like an amazing person and your seemingly innocent observations about stuff like your boyfriend's errant urine stream are both hilarious and totally real ... i wouldn't worry too much about what words you choose; if people don't like it i believe they can block you. Here as in all walks of life, be yourself ... you seem to have a memorable personality and i hope i am speaking for many of us that you seem like you'd be interesting to meet
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Mon, 08-23-2004 - 2:32am
You don't get it. The reason I come here are because of the rules that are set. If people don't like that they can't use the C word here, then they know where the door is. I come here instead of other boards because I can talk about sex like an adult to other adults without resorting to immature language. There are plenty of places on the net where her language would be accepted, why force it on people in a forum where that isn't even allowed?

Leticia

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Mon, 08-23-2004 - 7:39am
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Mon, 08-23-2004 - 8:17am
Didn't seem to work. I think it must be sending messages to an old, inactive email account. If anyone ever wants to lecture me or otherwise rap, my addy is christyunderscore011111athotmail.com. Replace "underscore" with the character, same as in my handle.


Edited 8/23/2004 8:36 am ET ET by christy_la1
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Mon, 08-23-2004 - 9:39am
The key word is "adult".....but then I supposed there are those who equate "adult" with "erotic" or "pornographic". Note where you get this kind of language....NOT from the more mature regular posters.

My Dad used to say that using vulgar (unacceptable in polite society) language shows a lack of class and a lack of vocabulary. I agree. Those who think it's "cool" will grow up some day.

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Mon, 08-23-2004 - 3:41pm
Hey Christy-

I will move the chat here away from the language debate and back to your original question if that's ok...

like you, by and large all my gf's are seriously anti-anal, believing that it's an 'exit only'...i tho, have always been SORT of intrigued by it, because the people who do like it...LOVE it and say how awesome it is.

recently my bf and i tried it and i would say we were mostly successful...the trouble was that entry is pretty tight so he wasn't able to get all the way in...but we WILL do it again soon (hopefully when i see him next! it's been 3WEEKS between my vacation and his...i'm going bonkers!!)

the advice i offer (and i'm sure isn't news to you if you've been reading up on it) is: LOTS of lube....and make sure it's a kind that doesn't get sticky over time cuz that's just gross! a new condom between anal and vaginal sex cuz there are certain bacterias that can cause an infection. and i would start in the spoons position- it gives you the most power to pull away if it's hurting, plus his hands are free to hold you tight, or play with your front side! but you may also want to start with fingers before letting him enter you just to help the area loosen!

good luck! and if the stars to align just right for you, i hope you enjoy it!!

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